This isn't totally on topic but does anyone else have a deeply religious parent who won't get off your case about it? I prioritized a meeting over going to Zoom virtual church with my mom tonight and she started crying and saying I must find room for the Lord in my life. We spend plenty of other time together so I know it isn't that. How can I get her to see that it's never going to be as important to me as it is to her and I'm not going to prioritize it over my career?

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So interesting how our parents have such deeply rooted religious upbringings, while we continue to try and prioritize balance. The Lord is important, but I think it's wise of you to put your career first.

It may be a tough conversation, but try explaining to her that you don't necessarily have the same religious beliefs as she does or you don't commune with the Lord the same way she does. You may get some resistance as religious parents tend to hold themselves responsible for your metaphysical health, but I hope that overtime she can understand

Religious topics are complicated to manage, and everybody has a different point of view that needs to be respected. If that is not the case, you need to start setting boundaries.

Have you tried explaining your side to her? I personally would tell her in detail what would happen if I did otherwise.

I went through this as well with my parents. They were strictly religious and as I grew up I grew away from going to church. My kids were getting older, we were involved in numerous sporting events, and school events, and our lives were just super busy. The guilt that she would throw out was horrible... you're going to hell for not going to church, your kids are going to hell, and you need to go to church for god to forgive you... the list went on and on... and she would bring it up every time we say her that we eventually started to have a taunted relationship bc she wouldn't stop (bringing the kids bibles, getting them books about Jesus, god, religious books, asking the kids if they wanted to go to Sunday school and she would take them). Good luck with this one!

Have a one-on-one talk with her about how your priorities differ from hers. It might not be easy, trust me I've been there before, but it's not impossible to get her to understand your side. If your views and lifestyle don't align with it anymore, then don't push yourself into staying there. Make her understand that it does not mean that you'll lose the values that came with it.

The fact that they have to have an outburst just to guilt trip you into pursuing a religion sounds so bad to me. If you don't feel the need to be involved in any religion, don't force yourself to. Explain your side to them and make them understand that you're in charge of what you want to participate in. Your ethics and values will still be intact, religion or no religion.

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