Venting into the void. I’m 22 weeks pregnant, have a wild 4yo, on what feels like 38476252 pitches and burnt the hell out. I literally don’t know how to make anyone understand that I’m at/beyond capacity. I feel like every time I throw up a boundary it’s bulldozed over. I’m not in any position to quit (esp now), but not looking to be in a bed rest situation either. I don’t really know what to do.

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For illustrative purposes, I just broke down sobbing over the sink bc I dropped a pan of vegetables I’d spent a while chopping in an attempt to meal prep for the week. All this while I’m waiting for my boss to call me.

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I've been there ❤️ know this feeling. I cried over the same when my son was not sleeping through the night. You are stronger than you think Mama. It's totally okay to feel overwhelmed. Feel it accept it. And it will fade a little. Sometimes I realize I'm telling myself this is insane. I can't handle one single more thing and it's so true but it doesn't help I spend all day saying I can't do it. When I remind myself I am doing great and give myself permission to love life a little. Even the messy life. It seems to feel better.

Re work: Sending hugs. No great answers except to remember that you’re at a corporation not working for a human, so do what you can for yourself. A corporation will forget about you the moment it runs you through.

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I have a 4year old. I get it. Pick your battles and let them be, they may not be doing what you need them to do when you need them to do it but you’re pregnant and getting frustrated won’t help your blood pressure.

Meals preps - might not be a bad idea to just do a rotisserie chicken and salad 1x/ week, take out 1x/week and breakfast for dinner 1x/week. That takes care of 3 of the 5 hectic go go go work days. I’m a huge fan of stir fry and can get dinner on the table in 20m from start to finish so try that, keep it simple.

Advertising is always going to be crazy, not much advice from me here. I would like to say, set boundaries but I understand that it’s not always possible. If you have a hard stop or need to do something at a certain time, I recommend mentioning this in your meetings… say something like, “I have a hard stop at xyz time”, that way the group knows that if they have a specific question for you, they will ask ASAP.

Also - you gots this. 🙏

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Can you work on fewer pitches? Pitches are the toddlers of the advertising world. Crazy and irrational and make you lose lots of sleep.

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Re 4yo, try getting an evaluation of its offered in your location. If not see what help is available privately. it’s true 4 yo are crazy, but they should be starting to calm down… I had a behavioral therapist privately and she was great to point out ways and patterns of action and reactions that was going on, esp at bedtime. Made things a lot calmer in my house.

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In this same position- I’m pregnant with twins and haven’t told anyone yet and I’m working 11 hr days and exhausted. I think I need to know the answer to this: is work-life balance a myth in this industry or does it exist somewhere?

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Yeah I’ve heard many companies are “people first” but have yet to see that actually play out. I hope eventually there’s big wellness revolution, a push and pressure for ethical workplace balance, the way there has been in sustainability. Now we are looking after the earth’s resources more, but not human “resources” the way we need to yet.

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I was you and that was a very tough few months for me. Something’s gotta give and only you know what it could be. Can you hire a sitter a few nights a week to help with your first? Can you order ready made meals like Factor or Homechef? Can you have a conversation with HR and cc them anytime you have to write an email saying you’re not available this weekend/late night to? Is there another mom on your team who would have advice? Only you know what’s best.

Setting boundaries doesn’t have to be as extreme as bedrest. It’s okay to take a sick day (mental health counts as sickness, you don’t even have to explain. Just say you’re not well and out of commission for the day and won’t be available). No need to silently suffer. Id be so tired, I’d block my calendar to schedule a quick nap during lunch hour. Also found a therapist (Talkspace is convenient) who helped coach me. I don’t know how I survived the workload that I had, plus a toddler, plus horrific morning sickness that lasted the entire pregnancy, plus constant work travel. But I did, and these things above helped.

I’m sorry. It’s so hard. Wherever you can, throw money at the problem and get okay with shortcuts. No one will care that you buy pre-cut vegetables or pre-prepared meals. Hire a babysitter for some nights to get a breather. Etc.

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