Was on a traveling project when it clicked that I may be depressed. after telling my senior, his response to my ask of using my lunch for a short walk outside (& taking a working lunch) "we're here to

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He’s a dick.

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Serve the client so that doesn't look good". Is that normal or do I just work for a firm that doesn't understand mental health?

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That's an awful response. People really need to show more empathy. However just want to add that it may or may not reflect your firm. Unfortunately responses to mental health issues are driven by individual perceptions rather than firm ideology. Also I myself wouldn't feel comfortable sharing that I am dealing with a mental health issue. Response and perceptions vary from person to person.

If you do feel like your senior starts discriminating against you after you shared this information, definitely reach out to HR.

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There's a reason I'm leaving this crazy environment ... I would have went on a walk anyways. Or responded "mental breakdowns also don't look good in front of a client so I'll take that walk instead."

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Definitely not a normal response. As M2 said, it depends on the person.
If you can, maybe find another project & ask ahead of taking it what their lunch priorities are. ITS LUNCH. And you can use that time how you please if it doesnt hurt anyone. I have a friend who got their entire team to take walks during lunchtime together as a fitness & mental wellness plan.
Also i think i would take the walks anyway. If anyone asks why & you dont want to share the full reason you cansay it clears your mind, helps your back & legs neck & all muscles basically stretch from staring at a screen & sitting all day.

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Get off that project and away from him ASAP! Not healthy leadership for you.

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That’s a reportable offense. I wouldn’t do it to get him in trouble, but it’s enough to tell HR and roll off. Also talk to your Dr - you can qualify for medical leave. The first step is recognizing you need help. I’m proud of you and I know it must’ve been hard to escalate it the way you did. Don’t let someone else’s mistake prevent you from getting what you need and deserve.

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I’m always amazed at how many leaders are clueless as to what it means to lead. You can tell he’s full of bs!!

He’s an immature ahole. You don’t need permission to spend your lunch however you please. Agree, talk to HR, talk to your Dr and take your walk

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