What do you do when your date expects you to pay? I don’t mind paying for the first time, but it’s a bit of a turnoff for me. I also don’t want to set the expectation that I’ll be paying for the following dates.

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I prefer the ‘you ask, you pay’ model for the first couple dates. Meaning if you ask the person out, then you pay for the date. But I also look for an equal balance between who sets the dates so there’s a balance in that respect. And if you set the date, you control the cost (I think it extremely rude to expect someone to be able to afford whatever place I set for a date)

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Yes. This is a great way of looking at it.

Uh…no. Split bills only.

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It depends on whom you’re dating. A 20 year old model or someone closer to your own age? (Not to assume you’re not 20, but you get my drift.)

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And it is true across the board, regardless of age. If you’re dating someone whom you like and he just can’t afford to pay his way to do the stuff you want to do, then you should pay. I’ve been in this situation before and just paid, because I knew he really couldn’t afford it—and I wanted him to come with me. It didn’t work out, but I had a lot of fun.

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The first time I wouldn’t say anything. If they’re worth the second date then it’s time to have a discussion. My better half is a university researcher. I love him, but if we were going to go halfsies on everything I’m doomed to never having a vegetable that didn’t come out of a fry basket. It’s understood I’m paying if we go to a place that has a tablecloth unless we’ve said otherwise. It’s also understood he can pay for the occasional latte. As long as you’re communicating about it I think it’s fine.

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This is sweet ❤️

When the bill comes ask where their card is when you get yours out. It’s not that hard. And if they make a scene about it then you know it’s probably not going to work or your going to have to make a concession

Ahhh you didn’t see that he wanted gen… you should have opened that Twitter link on his profile…

This depends on the situation.. and I would set expectations on budget and experience. For ex. I dated an artist once who was a foodie but barely made it through every month. I wanted to take them to a nice restaurant and didn’t expect them to fork up $200 bucks to split the meal. It was lovely..and they cooked me the best meal, which was probably cheaper but I will always remember it to be the best meal/evening I had with a date..it’s the thought that matters.

I just pay.

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