When I still hang out with my college buddies on weekends even though I have a big boy job now

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

Currently have a 5th grade girl who is struggling with classroom behaviors and choices. When questioned, she says she wants to be a boy, but her parents won’t allow it. Obviously, she is struggling with more than making good choices at school. Her parents are very kind and appreciative of all we do for their child, but they are also clearly struggling with this. Anyone ever been in a similar situation or have some advice on how we can best support the student?

I’m going to be a dad! But I have some questions. When should I tell my manager/teams? I’m up for senior promotion this year, will this impact that promotion? For those of you that work in public what tips do you have for managing your work and family responsibilities? For context, my wife, once she’s done with maternity leave, will only work 25-30 hours a week. I know working in public and having a new born is probably going to be a lot to juggle, but I have to make it work.

How do you combat being bored with your family during the holidays? Better than having family drama, but I think I need to stop coming home for the holidays.

Are there any well-off suburbs around Chicago where there's a significant amount of black or mixed race people? Significant meaning 40-50%+. I've seen a lot of nice black suburbs in southern and eastern cities but less in the midwest. In an interracial relationship and want to get an idea if there are any suburbs where our kids would feel represented or if we'll need to move down south for that.

Just moved in. How do you make friends in this place?

Getting ready to quit and I’m scared as heck!! But I feel like it’s now or never to follow my dream of taking a gap year to backpack the world!! Dealt with a lot of pushback and concern but this is it

Hi everyone I am relocating to Hyderabad next month. Even though I look forward to meeting new people I can’t seem to ignore the fact that I will move away from family. My family situation is already complicated, my mom and dad are not on good terms so we don’t live together and when I move it’ll get worse. I am financially independent but I feel guilty for not being there for them. Is there any possibility of getting transferred to Gurgaon office(a lot closer to my home)if I talk to my manager?

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

How can I make friends in Chicago?

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Noticing a theme on fishbowl recently among young couples so wanted to get to know how (if at all) you managed to solve the issue of being in a relationship with someone who was in a considerable debt or had different spending habits than your own?

When I started in this industry, it was all about radio and direct mail. Now, most are doing video content and influencer marketing. What do you think our children will be influenced by?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Thoughts on shooting your shot with someone at the client?

Hi All,
I am bit confused currently. Please help me with genuine suggestions.I am currently working in TCS since 7 years and TCS was my first company. TCS is giving me 6.25lpa. Now I got an offer of 16lpa in CTS for Automation Testing role. But once I started talking to friends i got to know that one of my frnd has recently been fired from CTS last year due t unavailability of project. Now i am scared as I m single child of my parent and i have to pay emi and handle my household. Please suggest

Does anyone who works on a DOD project with a clearance know if you can request a phone?

Hello All .

Received offer letter today from LTI . It’s mentioned in the mail that i will receive BGV mail After acceptance of letter but no mail received till now .

How much days it take to receive that mail ? And can we mention our joining date (early joining) there ?

Thanks !

Senior counsel, retail furniture company. Going through interviews now for the role and I’m wondering what a typical compensation package is. My specialty is real estate, 2015 grad, been in-house my whole career except for a short stint at a boutique real estate firm in SF when I graduated law school. SF Bay Area.

Is EPLI work truly unbearable or is it decent in moderation? Is it worth it to apply to a firm that prioritizes EPLI?

Hi guys... any idea how long
IBM takes to release offer letter after tells you to fill forms for the offer??
My HR told me he ll give in 2 days. Yet to hear from him though after 2 days.

Hey IBMers/ex-IBMers,

What is the designation hierarchy in IBM GBS for someone joining as "Advisory Technical Services Specialist" at "7A" band?

Like I would like to know what will be the next designation/band once for me if I get promoted?

YOE: 6 yrs.
Tech Stack: Testing

Thank you in advance!

Hi Fishes,
Please suggest
Im holding offers from
EY GDS: 18 lpa
IVY comptech: 16lpa
YOE: 5yrs Tech: Unity3D, C#.
Can you guys help which would be better in wlb, job security, benifits. EY Ivy comptech Tata Consultancy Deloitte

Hi All,
I have an offer from fujitsu 11.5lpa fixed and from cognizant 13.8lpa fixed+70k variable.
Which one to choose?

Anyone with Dynamic 365 experience? There is opportunity in Dubai! Please ping me seperately.

Hi fellow fish need some advice.

I'm planning a wedding and wondering if I should apply for new credit cards to maximize on points. If so, wondering what your recommendations are and or if there are new cards out there I haven't heard of yet. For context I probably have another 20k+ in expenses to pay still and my current cards are:

CSP
Marriott Bonvoy Boundless
Citi double cash
Random card (used to be uber)

Any cloud consultants in google pro serve? What comp can you expect?

Anyone get to the end of the week and see the amount of hours you billed and think “what did I actually do all that time”? Idk maybe I have bad memory.

Is PWC Sdc, bangalore location permanent work from home/ hybrid or offices have resumed ?

What is salary range and/or total comp for a SM/D entering into big 4? Obviously I’m talking about D and p dubs, respectively. Have 2.5 years consulting experience. 16.5 years industry exp. Ty

I have some mental issues that affect how I do my work. Is it appropriate to bring them up ever, or is it seen as an excuse?

^when the client puts you on actuals^