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no this wouldn’t merit any type of breakup. drink less alcohol, and prioritize eating 3 meals a day
C’mon now - you could have eaten while he showered.
There’s no rule that you must do that everything together.
I agree.
I am 100% sure this is a fairly new relationship and the author is under 30?? Ish?
He gave you water and lay you down. If he had to go he had to go.
In your shoes I would also a bit ‘hmmm just walked out’ but you have a huge learning experience here:
Check with your doctor your blood sugars.
Don’t judge other people based on your morals, you are kind and would stay, he couldn’t stay. I guess on this hard line I would ask him what was it he had to go for? Work / plane?
Coffee with a mate? Or did he leave you to buy breakfast?
You could have got a glass of water and stirred a spoon of salt and sugar in it; helps blood sugar and electrolytes after sha@@ing a lot you lose those nutrients.
This sounds awfully harsh petal but you are in charge of you.
You WERE conscious and you could have called your Dr, 911, etc.
Please, huge lessons here. Hard words but if I was next to you I would be saying them in a soft tone.
You just need to look out for yourself more because the sad fact of life is that no other person will, and if you’ve had someone look after you, you’ve been cared for. Lucky.
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Would you dump someone for this situation? Your girlfriend overserved herself last night and woke up making her choices and her hunger my problem. I helped her as best I could with her hangover symptoms but I had things to do and she wasn't up for it so I headed out alone after getting her somewhere comfortable.
Nah, that doesn’t count as a recovery after your wild assumptions were proved wrong D 😂
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I’ll be very honest with you. Caring for someone you love is something you do, even when they voluntarily put themselves in a tough position. A man who loves and responsibly cares for you, can absolutely have a real conversation with you when you’re sober and sound and address his concerns and all but a man who feels responsible for you would never leave you half/borderline unconscious. If anything, the loving care towards you even when you’re in the wrong would make the situation even more compelling for you to not do that again. You’d value him so much more. I don’t know if this is a first time thing or if he took the approach “not my problem” more than once but I’d definitely see this as a very big red flag.
We didn’t drink that much. I needed to eat and he didn’t care and wanted to shower. I would never leave someone after they fainted. Whether it’s my boyfriend or friend.
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Well, you got your answer. If at 37 that’s the mindset, I would not expect much more than that from him. I saw someone else commenting that you shouldn’t hold people to your moral standards and I agree when we’re talking about people out in the world but when you decide to bring people into your inner circle, especially a man who would potentially be your partner in life, it’s essential that you both have the same core values. How to care for one another is a big part of this alignment, otherwise you’ll be signing up for a lifetime of unmet needs and that would be disastrous. You don’t need to condemn him for his behavior but only acknowledge that he cannot give what you need and understand that because of that, he’s not your person. The right person will stand by your side without a doubt. You do your share of growth too. Be vocal about your needs, and those who love you will understand and support you. Wishing you all the best.
Dumping him is up to you. But people take care of each other when they care about you, they check in, follow up, order you Uber Eats if he didn’t have time. But regardless of the circumstances, a man takes care of the woman he adores.
But there are two sides I’m sure. Maybe he didn’t know you “fainted.”
He literally caught me. I woke up with him holding and calling name to wake e up
Lots of people don’t handle emergencies well. I’d weigh it against everything else.
You sound like the problem. He did everything he could to take care of you, but then he had places to be. It’s not like he left you out on the streets or something, you were on your couch.
Op, this didn’t go the way you thought it would.