Y’all I’m struggling. I’m fortunate to have had immense career success, but it hasn’t come without sacrifice of the “traditional female path”. I’m almost 40, not married, no kids. I’ve battled cancer. What I’m struggling with is, is it’s hard to communicate and have friends and family, accept my career success as my “baby”. I love celebrating their life milestones but I’m met with silence when I hit mine because they’re not what they expect. Sad no one in my circle understands. I get it, but sad

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You shouldn’t have to “get it”. Your friends and family should be showing up for you and your wins just as much as they expect to be celebrated at a baby shower/wedding! I’m in my 30s, married, but no kids and feel that a lot of folks are just self-centered. I don’t necessarily mean that in a negative way but more as a general statement, people get wrapped up in their own little bubbles and unless you’re promoting yourself you get forgotten.

I’ve started celebrating my own wins and inviting the people I love to join. The guest list has gotten shorter over the last year but “my energy is expensive and not everyone can afford it.”

Your accomplishments matter and you deserve people who want to celebrate every project close, every crushed deadline, every broken nail, and every time you thought about cutting your own bangs but chose not to! But while you’re finding it irl, let us celebrate with you here! Community comes in so many different forms!

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I’m single and in a similar boat. Finding a life partner so far hasn’t happened. But I have been doing the same as underwriter 3.

The folks in college that I thought would be there just haven’t been there for me. Some days I’m lonely. But I find different ways to build community.

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