After 12 rounds of me vs my adhd - its still a LOVE/HATE relationship. I conclude I’m in the wrong career as a result. I love being smart, excelling, having random super human skills. But my career/stalemate with my own mind makes me feel like I am the biggest loser fuck up ever. All the time. I 1000% understand why work isn’t working out. I empathize for all involved > they probs deserve. Thrilled to figure this out but OH F$CK this is gonna get BAD bad before it gets fixed. Commiserate?

My wife is in sales at Mercedes and she has been averaging $200k a year and growing YoY. She loves her job, however she works long days and barely gets time off. We plan on having kids within the next year or two, and it’s highly u likely that she’ll be able to keep her current gig. We want to find a career that allows her to work remote or that at least gives her a better work life balance so that she can see her kids grow up. Should she get certifications to give her a shot at adtech?Too late?

How did you make friends when you moved here?

My sister & I don’t get along because i feel she is extremely rude & prefers outsiders over family. My parents however, despite the fact that she disrespects them too, always say she is our daughter & we have to deal with it so just let her be. My mom thinks she is not in a good financial state so we should help her & I don’t want to given her disgusting behavior. Every time i buy something nice for myself, my mom kind of pushes me to buy for her too, and I don’t want to. Continued..

My Dad and brother didn’t even text me happy birthday 😔

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

SO and I are taking a break after a heated argument. I don’t know if I should reach out, how to know when I should, or if I should wait for them to. Why am I asking you guys? I’m at a loss.

Anyone else have a formatting pet peeve and get annoyed when people don’t have a blank first column and row in tabs? I.e headers/data in cell A1

My first manager told me this, and I’ve followed it to a T since.

Hi everyone, have a noob question here. When did you share the pregnancy news with your employer? Not sure when it’s optimal to do that. :)

Recently joined.. How to know who is our HR..whom to take concerns with..like need to switch project..etc..

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

The relationship with my copy partner isn’t working as I expected. This person waters down every single idea we have. Have you experienced that before? If so, how would you manage the situation?

Boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot for a while. He broke up with me, but then we decided to try to make it work after we talked. I don’t want to end my relationship. Any ideas how to save and salvage a relationship on the bricks of ending

So I have family situation I've been dealing with and yesterday at a company function outside the office, my supervisor brought it up in front of a bunch of people. First of all highly inappropriate, but also it's nobody's business. She's made comments before outside of work about how her boss is gay, blah blah blah. I'm just at a loss. Should I report it to HR? And if I do, how do I do it without it being known that it came from me??

I just want two best friends who’re dating each other to adopt me as their official third wheel where I live now. I miss those days. 🥺

Starting a new fully remote role Monday with a leader that has never had their own admin, let alone an exec assistant. Any suggestions for developing the relationship or training them to properly use an exec assistant?

This week’s topic in our staff meetings is trauma and understanding the behavior of our students. Anyone else can’t help but take it personal when students lash out? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

What are the drawbacks of the firms that have earlier tracks for income partners (i.e. Kirkland, McDermott, etc.)? Is the pay pretty much the same as “associates” your year making market? Do you non-billable admin and business development expectations go up?

what are the exit ops for managers/SM in financial due diligence for deals?

How are everyone's hours in your practices over the last month?

I'm in lit and finally got busy after a slow first half. Looks like I'll hit my bonus.

got offer in wipro nd adp which one to join and both pays same salary.please suggest

New in town, where do I go to meet people (for friends and dating)?

600sqft 1 bedroom in kips bay, $1800 (walk-up, no laundry in building, no doorman) for year lease

Would be moving from 6th floor walk up $1400 month to month in prime LES with two roommates(not my best friends but nice).

Would you move?

Considering:
1. costs to make the move itself
2. I like to run so options downtown seem better but not familiar with kips Bay Area
3. Commuting anywhere
4. Restaurants
5. I’m 23

Moving to NYC with my girlfriend. We are 26. Budget is 4K-4500 for a 1br in a luxury building. What neighborhoods should we be targeting? More so foodies than bar people. Quieter probably preferred.

Deloitte M2 advisory salary in SF?

Ok…I still don’t know what I’m doing so started a convo by accident lol. Anyway, I’m new here and just wanted to say hello. There’s power in connections and I’m here wanting to connect. Hope everyone is enjoying their weekends 😊

Can you share the resources or sites like leetcode to help prepare for interviews for 11 yoe experienced ui developer?

What should i go for TCS 9.5Lpa or Rategain 11.5 lpa

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Anyone looking for a 2bed apartment for rent in Uptown Charlotte starting Aug/ Sept ?
Can be furnished / unfurnished based on your preferences

Has anyone ever tried to work outside of AFS's typical locations (DC, SAT, STL)? I'd like to stay with AFS, but I want to move away from TX to CO. I've heard rumors that some people have been able to do this. Any experience or insight?

What do you think will happen to the consulting business after project Everest ( the split of audit and consulting business)

Today is the first day of the new work week! What are your goals for this week?

Transitioning from biglaw to IRS Chief Counsel?

Hi all, has anyone here transitioned to Chief Counsel from biglaw? What was your experience like? When did you transition? Any tips or general comments?

Current jr. associate. Love tax, not loving biglaw. Have an llm. Looking to transition in the next few years (or earlier if possible).

Thanks for any help.

Anyone working on an activation for ComicCon this year?

Welp it’s Monday! Time to spend 2 hours reformatting my out of hand to-do list instead of everything I need to send in this week 😌

Has anyone used Done or those other adhd services? How is it that keeping up with appointments and getting prescriptions filled for adhd is such a huge issue… the irony is just 🤦‍♀️

Remotest you hadn’t been diagnosed but you graduated college - you don’t have ADHD.
Do not try to relate to someone who has ADHD. Symptoms v disorder … you likely just have symptoms here and there. If you had the disorder, you wouldn’t have made it this far without knowing.

However, the meds are great, and good luck getting them!

Hi all,
I am at Big4 UK (London). Recently, I started to suspect myself to have Asperger’s. I haven’t seen a doctor yet and I haven’t been officially diagnosed. I was always understanding that something is not “normal” with me but I didn’t know about Asperger’s. Let’s assume I go to a doctor and officially been diagnosed. What are the pros/cons to disclose it to my employer? Can they fire me because of this? I am on visa in this country. That’s why don’t want to risk it at all. Thanks for help!

Just found out I’m getting promoted to manager at a Big 4. Yay! They have no idea how hard it was getting diagnosed with ADHD finally midway through this year and thinking I’d never make it. Jokes on them!

I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 12. My family did not opt to put me on medication. I illegally discovered Adderall in college. Worked incredible. Got diagnosed after college & after having been fired from my first job. Passed the CPA exams on Adderall. Went off of it again. I do everything well at my job except for attention to detail within my excel files & emails. Will taking ADHD medication really fix this? Does anyone else have this issue and was it resolved by taking medication?

Has anyone disclosed that they have adhd at work? Have their been any accommodations or real benefits to doing that? Seems like the work stays the same either way... and the stigma is tough.