3 years ago I distanced my long term love and chose my ambition to complete an MS and create something for both of us in hopes to get back to her as a grown independent man. I lost her for not being there “enough”. Should I regret it? Should i have chosen Love and regretted not achieving my dreams? (We are 27, we fell in love when we were 15) I was a no one back in the day but now it’s totally different, i am debt free, financially stable and ready to settle down.

Boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot for a while. He broke up with me, but then we decided to try to make it work after we talked. I don’t want to end my relationship. Any ideas how to save and salvage a relationship on the bricks of ending

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

When did you know you were falling out of love with your partner? Did you fix it, or break things off and why?

In search of stories to hopefully understand a phase in my own long term relationship.

Recommendations of infant/toddler daycare near park hill neighborhood? I work in downtown so downtown area can also be considered. Thanks!

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

I’m currently struggling with my friend group. I’m a transplant to my current city and ended up making friends with my coworkers (who were also transplants). Now I’m regretting this as I don’t feel like the friendship is deep and things seem competitive. I feel like I have no friends and my real friends (from HS and College) are in a different state and have their own lives. Any advice on dealing with having no real friends where you live?

My boyfriend just came out to his mom and she’s been horrible to him... he’s no longer allowed to go home... I’m traveling for work. I want to be there for him. Any partners with advice?

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

We get it, ghosting happens. But has it ever happened to you repeatedly by the same person? Cashmere Agency in LA calls me relentlessly and then ghosts me just as relentlessly. Sales Force has done it two or three times as well. I can’t help but laugh and think about how it feels like getting a text from an ex—this didn’t work out before remember? It’s only been a month I’m still me.

Any thoughts on open relationships? Has anyone tried one? I’m curious. Kinda wanna explore that but unsure.

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

First boyfriend i’ve had during the holidays and he’s away at home. I’m so bored 🙁😞

We have ESL students who speak languages like Mongolian that no one in our school speaks and can translate. How do I communicate with parents? How do I get them to feel more welcome/comfortable?

What was the first thing you did once you become partner? I am assuming heavy pressure on selling more than what you were selling before?

Hi Sharks,

Any Azure DevOps engineer in bowl?
Need urgent help.

My friends think it's cool that I "get to" travel all the time, they don't get how disruptive my job really is... #flightattendantproblems

What’s a fair operations manager salary

Do any retail workers out there still get severe anxiety when you see someone without a mask?

Who else here feels like the entire restaurant industry deserves an overhaul? We rely on tips because it's basically assumed that everyone will tip, but in reality there are people who tip very little or just don't at all. Some days I'll make around $200 and other days only $50 and it's really not stable at all.

I have about 10yrs of customers service experience. I'm looking for work, but I'm always getting minimum wage for this position. Should I change career path? Or is there a job for customer service that actually pays well.

Why do deals move at a breakneck pace all the time? I don’t understand the urgency put on this work for every single deal. Is it deliberate to avoid lengthy diligence / lots of questions? All these deadlines are arbitrary

I am a physician with extensive informatics background and experience. Eventually, I would to be in a position similar to a CMIO. Any advise on next steps? Anyone looking for a CMIO or ACIO?

Capgemini HR asking me to share offer letters.

Is it fine to share them ?

During onboarding, does Accenture send you any welcome packages?

Hi Fishes,
Anyone needs referral in Infosys please DM me.
We have openings for Java Developer, .NET developer, DevoOps consultant, React JS developer, AWS developer, Azure developer. Feel free to contact.

Has anyone worked on SAP BTP here. I am a security consultant and want some help in case someone has actually leveraged that product

Hello folks,

What is good package for sap basis folks?
Package in range of 25-30 lpa is possible for 9yoe in service based companies?

The new X7 looks like a faakin’ Kia….

Hi everyone! I’m staring in an AE position to book demos with restaurants for their POS systems. How to prospect / have conversations and close the demos with them? I’m new to AE, used to be an interning SDR. Looking for tips and advice more towards the conversation factor. Thank you

Looking for producer roles - NYC as well.

I am planning to relocate Hyderabad for job purpose, can someone suggest the best area for rental accommodation 1BHK or 2BHK ? my budget is < 20K. Also anyone has any idea of Hyderabad cost of living compared to Pune?

I just quit my toxic job without having another job lined up…

Can someone take Elon Musk’s phone away?

Boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot for a while. He broke up with me, but then we decided to try to make it work after we talked. I don’t want to end my relationship. Any ideas how to save and salvage a relationship on the bricks of ending

Buying a condo with an HOA - what’s the average reserve % you’ve seen? My HOA is 23% funded, and recently raised dues.

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

Any ladies into 7'6" guy with $1.5 million TC at 27 who totally gets and supports your ambitions while also going on Instagram ready adventures with you?

Any recommendations on where to go for a 30th bday trip in November?

Gents - What perfume/cologne brand do you wear?

All of us want the same thing! Money- Flex Timing- Great Culture- Respect - Value in what we are doing!
We, the employees make an organization. If all of us want the same thing, how come the culture of that organization still remains the same! Why can’t we be the pioneer? Thoughts…

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

Anyone actually use the Networking feature here on fishbowl? Like yeah I see some of you with it on but do you actually use it besides thirsty dms?

“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a mindset”

any avid readers? genres you enjoy & its corresponding book?

Is it illegal to tell someone to get out of your car if your in a national park at night? What if the person made you feel unsafe and you wanted them out of your car, even though the location was a bit dangerous (ex Yellowstone, Smoky Mountains)?

I was humbled today when I was talking to a guy at work(I’m in industry) and we were looking through the past work history of executives/board members and I’m go “oh she used to work at Deloitte!” And he’s like “what’s a Deloitte”

I think you're all OK even if all your beliefs are absolutely and terribly wrong.

I accept you even though your opinions are trash and reek of intellectual laziness and genuine idiocy.

Currently in a committed relationship and just came to the realization that I have actually never been single in my life. Sometimes I wonder what the single life is like.. just dating and doing whatever I want without having to think about a partner. Any one else ever felt like this? Or been in this situation?

I didn't apply for a job that would have set me up for the future in the government. I wouldn't have to worry about money or future jobs. My boss had just given me a small pay rise and talked up the future and so I felt good. I now severely regret not applying for the job and cannot stop thinking about it to the point of insomnia and depression. I even contacted the employer but too late. It's a small town and rarely anything comes up. I hate myself and feel like I failed my family. :(

Did I just finish binging the 2nd season of Indian Matchmaking? Why yes, yes I did.