Am i the ahole? I told my friend we (Florida) might get hit with another hurricane and it’s supposed to hit the day of my plane departure, Wednesday. Her wedding is on a Thursday and at this point there is a high chance my flight will be cancelled. She left me on read and never responded. I cannot leave earlier due to the tax deadline. It is extreme for me to be leaving for this anyway because of the deadline. I’m just a guest at the wedding. I’m not sure if she is angry or upset.

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NTA, though the tax deadline is a moot point - you knew about the deadline before you knew about the wedding.

More likely than not, she left you on read because she’s busy and stressed out about the wedding, not because she’s mad at you for not making it.

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I’m saying that because she might think I can leave earlier but I absolutely cannot because of the deadline. Im pulling 12 hour days until Tuesday.

If there is a possibility to leave the next day on Thursday I will but it obvs depends on the situation here in Florida and the conditions of my surroundings.

Supposedly she is just on cruise control at this point, per my past convo with her when I asked her how she was doing.

Yeah, I don’t think you should worry about her being upset with you. Just focus on making sure you’re safe and have the supplies you need in case Florida does get hit.

Regarding 10/15, look, I get it. But it’s just tax, no one is going to die. You’re not doing yourself any favors working 60-70 hour weeks. Take care of yourself first.

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There was no point to your text. You’ll either make it or you won’t. You can just let her know once the flight is actually canceled, she doesn’t need to go on this ride with you starting 4 days before the actual flight. If there are a number of people arriving from FL, it may have stressed her out more significantly.

On your other comment, it’s typical to be in “cruise control” when planning a wedding until a couple of weeks before it when things get super busy again. I’m sure her non-reply is due to being busy and not wanting to deal with this because there’s nothing for her to really tell you when you sent her a “I may not make it to the wedding but maybe I still will” text. She may have just gotten stressed by the text and closed it out and then forgotten to reply.

In any case, I don’t think anyone here is the A hole, doesn’t sound like that big a deal overall.

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Just send a check to cover the cost of your plate plus whatever extra $$ you want to gift. Done.

Now cancel the flight. 👍

Stay safe.

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She probably just has a lot going on. Don’t overthink this.

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What’s your expectations angry response or no response? You should be saying clearly if you’re planning to make it or not more clearly than indicating that you don’t want to be there due to potential weather influences

Idk why you would even say anything. You don't know yet if your flight will be canceled. It sounds like you don't want to go tho? Just do what you want and if you can't make it then still send a gift.

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