Any gay male AA want to talk with me about loneliness and dating in sobriety? I’m at 20 months and ready to call it quits. I am so lonely on weekend nights. I don’t have any single friends right now.

I'm on a beach in Florida and a guy walks up to me and is like "you're from Texas, huh?" And I'm like "yeah, how'd you know"? And then I realize how he knew...

If you had a walkout basement in your house, would you let your teen sleep in the bedroom there? If so, at what age ? The basement itself if fully completed, living room, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom.

My wife finally told me last night that she didn't know what I do last night ( I'm a securities lawyer) but she didn't want to sound stupid. Its been 5 years.

Weird American thing. Friends usually love to have us over but not over Thanksgiving b/c they are nervous around their family. So weird.

Any ladies that would like to go out for dinner? 27M 🙃

Share stories of when you saw your hot manager or teammate naked/ almost naked (see my story in the comments)

Have you ever taken a job you know you will hate because you needed the money right away? I have a family to take care of. I don't want to be plowing through our savings for selfish reasons like my mindframe at work, but I don't want to make our lives worse by being miserable. It's a matter of really ruining some of our financial future if we don't get money soon.

I don't know about you, but this is the longest my husband and I have gone without getting into a argument. Forced to be together forces us to behave?

Lockdown makes it hard to date

How can I make friends in Chicago?

Hi there!!

🥰🥰
I just want to say that I'm queer and married, in a Cis-hetero passing relationship 🤭

Do we have to talk about dating like all the time?

Can't we talk about other stuff? Like promoting THE AGENDA (jk)

No, but FR let's talk about being open and accepted in the workplace? How did you do that? How (un) friendly is the work environment?

Thankyaaaaaaaalll 😘😘😘

I’ve been married for a while now (5+ years) but feeling completely checked out. My wife has zero conflict resolution skills and can’t control her anxiety, so we constantly bicker if I ever do anything that offends her, and she wants to spend all her time talking about the constantly changing projects she will never start. I can’t ever talk about anything that worries me because she just freaks out. We have kids and she has no ability to earn money so leaving would be impossible financially

Which dating app you recommend to use?

(Preferably free to low cost)
For dating and relationships!

How much do you share with your coworkers? I never really share much of my personal life with coworkers, but my team shares a lot about themselves & their family. I usually ask about their lives, deflecting the question. Is this weird? Am I being too cautious?

Working from home in customer support provides so much flexibility as a stay at home mom. I can take care of the home, my babies and work without feeling guilty ….talk about mutli-tasking!

Is the Bella Vista area a safe place to live and raise kids?

Does anyone else get into this vicious cycle where you have things you need to get done and have plans later but you don’t get those things done because of procrastination and you super anxious about canceling and pleasing people and end up disappointing yourself

Hi Chicago - just moved here from the UK (via 7 years in Germany) and looking to make some great new friends.

Moved to River North and into trivia nights, most sports, movies etc and would love to find some people open to adding a city newbie to the group!

42m if that matters 🤷🏻‍♂️😁

Does anyone have a preferred project management tool to help track GTM strategy and risk?

What would your reaction be if the company you applied to asked for you to get permission from your current firm before moving forward? The situation is the company you're applying to is a client of your current firm, and you've already gone through the interview process with the new company. Thoughts?

Hi All,
I am worried about job security in H
Globant , i have joined in June and till now did not get any project 🥺 i am worried.

Hi, can you refer me to your company?
If yes, please DM me. I will share my resume.
My Skill : functional QA Lead
Total YoE : 8.3
CCTC : 12.47 LPA Fixed ; ECTC : 30 LPA Fixed
Looking for a Manager role(not below) ;
Looking for WFH only & Base Location should be Kolkata ;
Current Company : PwC India
Your help on this matter is highly appreciated.

Hello,
If anyone can answer ,
On how time it will take normally for HR discussion and final release of offer after clearing the interview?

Looking for advice. I have a few offers in negotiations for Senior IT audit role. My main motive is to get out of toxic work culture in B4 consulting and public accounting. Looking for better wlb, better work culture and decent compensation to make good living. Currently in TX making around 110K TC.

1. Children’s Place: Base-110K . Probable bonus of 3-5%. No relocation assistance or sign on bonus. Based in NJ. Location is closer to all my friends and family
(Continued)

What’s the work-life balance at Strategy& and EY-Parthenon in the London offices? At the moment I’m averaging around 50-55 hours at my boutique - higher or lower?

Hey can we Directly go to the office without reserving a seat?
Please let me know. Thanks.

I’m in a final round interview with EY for entry level roles. Does it affect me negatively if my recruiter knows that I’ve offer from multiple other big 4 firms? I received a form to fill where It asks for any offers that I already have.

I’m four months into my job and I got put onto a PIP. I worked so hard to break into IB, put up all the hours and even working 2am nights for weeks, learned a ton, and improved a lot along the way as the sole analyst yet this happens. I’m extra worried because it doesn’t seem there’s IB analyst positions out there. Im really hoping come January more positions come up but I’m just praying they don’t fire me until then. Anyone have general tips for this situation?

What is the designation and salary Societe gives to 3.4 to 3.4 years experience.I was interviewed for Python.Also let me know if we have to work in shifts?

Guys off topic
D laptop pickup ke liye formals me jana padega kya

Haven’t practiced a single Sim for REG and test in 4 days...am I screwed?

Would like some opinions about how likely it is to make product analytics self serve by PMs? Anybody have success here? Or is it hopeless to think that product managers can pull their own data, look at their own dashboards, and do basic data tasks themselves?

Hi Everyone, Need help.

I am currently serving Notice period and can join in 20days.

Have good expertise on Selenium Webdriver, TestNG, Restassured, Postman, Jenkins, AWS, Java Programming.

Yoe - 6.8years.

Preferred Location - Noida/ Gurgoan/ NCR

Please refer me in your organisations for relevant openings, would highly appreciate your help and time. Thanks in advance.

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?