Any good books on how to be liked or get along with others? Looking back in my career, I’ve always had friction my manager and disliked by more than one coworker.
It very may well be me and I want to change.
I think I have issues with authority and grew up as an only child, if that’s relevant.
30’s F

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Lol you just described me to a T

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yes I was about to say this about myself !

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Did you have good parents?

Not trying to be presumptuous or disrespectful - I had a similar issue until realizing that my friction with authority was largely because the original authoritative figures in my life didn’t do a great job and I projected that onto others. Now it’s much easier to be friendly and yes, vulnerable with folks irrespective of their level.

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Came from a two person home. Both parents were MBA, CPA’s. Very driven. I have a good relationship with my parents, but they are not affectionate at all.
I was raised to be independent. They very much allowed me to make mistakes.

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You can work with a therapist too. Bravo for recognizing this and wanting to improve. Self reflection is critical for success and you’re on the right track

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That is my next step. 🙂

Lots of women are like this at work. I am a 40s M and have grown to dislike this about the opposite gender. It’s not fair to men that are decent and treat you as equals.

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OP, same -all my issues have been with women. I’ve tried therapy and couldn’t find the root cause.

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The 4 agreements

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Be original, you don’t have to please anyone as that might leads to become a cheesy talker. Don’t give a f , show your value add and automatically every one will be after you. In my view, there is no s called like-able, it’s all give and talk👍🏻

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Business Chemistry by Kim Christfort and Suzanne Vickberg is a very well written book.

I think that it may help that Deloitte already uses the lingo extensively.

Thank you!

@OP as I quickly mentioned before, I have had the same situation. Both super successful parents, at the same time treating me as one of their employees = authoritative. I think personally, you probably learned a lot from them. At the same time, it's important to understand your personal needs and how you act in the workplace. For me personally, I want to leverage as much as possible, strong woman from a strong background? Yes! Too many people in our line of work who are old school and instead of using their brain leverage old school tactics

This is helpful, thank you!

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