Any married people do couples counseling? Did it help?

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We did it before we got married, and it was so helpful. It really helped us learn to communicate.

If both people are invested in improving the relationship by improving themselves, it can make a big difference. I highly recommend it.

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Ditto

Our counselor was terrible.

But eventually my wife and I can finally agree that our counselor is a tool. We rebuilt from there.

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In Europe, so mid morning

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Glad to know you were not in a situation you wanted to ask this at 1-4 am

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I have, and it did help. I found the earliest years of marriage to be toughest, but expect the empty nest transition will be, too.

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Yes! We have gone to therapy together and separately and it’s helped so much. We initially went after we had a series of miscarriages and grieved very differently causing a lot of tension. I do not think we’d still be together if it wasn’t for our therapist. She’s 86 and so wise. It’s important that both parties want to go and work things out and that the therapist is the right fit.

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Bad night?

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Yes it works, however both of you have to be willing to do the work on yourself as well as the relationship. The key is finding the right therapist is key as well! Good luck! Oh and BTW, we went at our 10yr mark and now at 38 and counting! 😁

We did it for many years. Our counselor was great. We had sessions for my wife and I, our son, and as a family. My wife and I have always gotten along well; however our parenting styles differed. I have full custody of my son, yet am more buddy like. My wife is his step mom and is more strict. Counseling helped her and I to see eye to eye on parenting and for us to have a united front. Kids are smart and will look for any crack.

My son struggled from age 7 - 14 because his biological mother, who could do no wrong would poison his mind, especially against my wife. Counseling helped, but so did time and our son maturing. It took until his late teen years to truly Thank my wife for all she’s done. In that time he also cut ties for a few years with his mom because he saw thru her lies and meanness.

Yes it can be helpful but everyone has to be honest.

My first marriage counseling session was horrific. Remedy: Check reviews carefully! Good luck.

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