Anyone gone No Contact with family members? Did you just do a hard exit stage left? Or did you let them know your boundaries and why you won’t be in contact with them any longer?

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My brother cut off contact with my parents about 4 months ago and as someone in the middle of it with a fairly objective view, I can see how brutal it is for everyone (including me). I understand his perspective but I understand theirs too. I really hope they find a way through it because there is a lot of damage but a lot of love there. I just read “Fault Lines”, a new book about estrangement, and I’d highly recommend it.

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My cousin is a piece of shit. I told him so, and then said I don’t care if I saw him again. Maybe someday. But until I see massive change I will be avoiding. You owe it to your friends/family that you’ll be stopping contact. People who ghost others are gutless.

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For sure. Some people you just gotta let go. Don’t feel guilty.

I have, very recently. It’s been hard managing especially with everything going on in the world. Ultimately I had to make a decision to either continue to deal with the toxicity of that parent in my life or completely let it go. I was very transparent with them about this decision and was met with gaslighting. It was the best decision I’ve made in a long time, though it’s hurtful. Don’t ghost. Keep in mind that if you are still in contact with other members of your family, you may experience some members reaching out about them or criticizing you about your decision (as I did literally today). Communicate your feelings and hold strong and be firm about your boundaries. If they press, just give yourself some space. I’m sorry you’re having to make this decision but you’ve got this! DM if you ever want to chat ❤️

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Thank you for this. It’s so hard. I talked to my therapist about it and she recommended soft contact. Basically no emotional investment, and keeping it “professional” but I don’t know if I’m capable of that. I’m too sensitive and get sucked in. And holy crap the gaslighting! I have also often wondered if I’m just totally getting it wrong, but then I see the looks on my friends faces when I tell them stories, even my therapist, and I am reassured. Sometimes I tell the stories and can’t believe it myself, the codependency, chaos, projection, etc etc. I’m so done. I’d love to chat sometime, we can never have enough support 👍

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I don’t think cutting people out of our lives is the way to go even if they are awful. I minimize contact, try to find common ground and call periodically. In my case some were just angry, disappointed people and I can relate. Life is disappointing and it is tough to see joy in anything when you feel you keep drowning in shit. I think that’s part of a lot of people’s baggage. I mended fences as best I could and now I send a card once in a while. It makes me feel better and has softened the relationships too. Wish u the best.

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I missed this reply when you posted it but this is such truth. Thank you

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