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I got married at 31. In April'22. Bachelorhood was not that bad. I was exhausted talking to new girls every day on bumble. Questions like how has your day been , lunch kia, hobbies kya hai...I was tired of all that crap. After a while you literally felt like a bot chatting mindlessly.
Then jeevansathi aur shaadi dot com wali ladkiyo se alag baatein jo parents ne batayi thi.
I thought yahi bacha hai kya life mein. Subha utho kaam karo baat karo so jaao. So I wanted to get married to get rid of the shallowness of these dating and matrimonial apps.
31 Tak aate aate love par se vishwas uth gaya tha. Kaun free lunch ke liye aayi hai aur kaun actually interested hai samajh aa raha tha. Plus bumble jaise apps mein broken log zyada hote hain, khush aur sorted log kam.
Finally I told my parents that either get me married through a good old arranged marriage or let me explore the world and work in the UK (yes shaadi na hoti toh UK ka plan tha, dost ne CV bhi forward kar dia tha aur interview schedule ho gaya tha, final round reh gaya 🥲) .
But then i got married after a courtship of 10 months. She is my best friend now. Acha hua time lekar shaadi ki. Financially bhi better position hai aur mentally bhi we both know what we want from life .
There were days I would get pangs of loneliness. But it was fine. I managed that time as well. Waise bhi hum CA logo ko struggle aur jhelne ki aadat ho jaati hai so hard times bhi jhel gaya.
Marriage is not that bad if it happens to the right person. We both respect each other's space and that's all that's needed.
Baaki dekhte hain what 30s hold for us. 20s toh nikal gaye success ke Mirage ko chase karte karte.
I have friends who are not married. Kisi ko rishte aa rahe hain but purana Ishq nahi bhul pa rahe. Kisi ko aa nahi rahe.
Men too face problems like low package, weight issues, looks, hair loss and what not. They are equally scrutinized but nobody talks about it. I saw rejections as well. But then I got married to a CA only. So now it is all sorted!
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So cool bro
It's not going good.
Now you'll be an uncle and you'll only find aunties or divorced girl for marriage.
Problem is they'll be much more experienced in relationships now and had 4-5 bfs, so they won't love you much as they loved their past bfs. Plus they'll be marrying you for money and security. Not love.
Other than that loneliness is always there.
Since you are earning money, people who want to use you are always with you. But don't want to listen to your problems, that you have to handle alone.
Life has no meaning. You wake up, you don't know what to do, you go for shopping, you'll think why.
You'll see couples outside it'll make you more sad.
All the younger siblings and friends will be getting married to the love of your life and you would be thinking ki koi patta hi leni thi college me.
Soon you won't feel to use apna haath jagannath as well, as you are so depressed with life that you want to take your own life.
But you have to keep going somehow as you don't want your parents to see you like that.
When it comes to parents, you'll be constantly worried as they are getting old and wanted to see their kid married. It's not just your dreams are crushed, your parents dream as well.
Sooooo, it's pretty bad.
I'm 34M now
Plus at this age you would find girls from 32 to 34, expectancy of a child is also low at such age. So starting a family after 34,35 is pretty hard.
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Yes , and it is going great. I am more worried for my parents because they are worried for me. The prob is simple- acc to them i should get married asap. I have lost interest in marraige because I feel that a male is just as good as the money he earns. Apart from the money a guy brings in he has no importance or value. There is nothing more to it. Plus the uncertainty marraige brings nowadays is totally unacceptable. One false accusation can ruin everything. I think I have done half of the LLM by myself in past 8 to 9 months.
LLM is masters of law, but what I wanted to say was LLB , which is Bachelors of law
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Your story is inspiring
I have cousins who are above 30 age. They have good job, well settled, good family, but the expectations from educated girls are so high that it's literally hell to find one good spouse candidate.
In my community its really hard to find girls.
Bro they are not finding girls from our community how will they find from other community. It's all messed up bro.
Whoever’s they are they should be lucky 😄
It is going great.
To the author. This is so good to read, and refreshing. Might I ask what was her age ?
I have seen people getting married after 30 are the happiest. Had few experiences, no financial tensions.. both the partners are mature enough. They conceived a child after 3-4 years. Obviously, they had intercourse before so they were not 30 something virgin.
You can find both good men and women for marriage in 30 but either there standards would be too low or too high. That is why general public in india get married before 30.