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Depends on frequency. More than once a month at any age would be a red flag
i did it like 5 times a month in college
To some, it's a red flag at any age.
How drunk? How often?
I'm over 40, it happens maybe once a year.
He’s 32 and goes out at least once a week till 2am and gets drunk. He always invites me and it’s not like I’m scared he’s out cheating when I don’t go but I feel like it’s so childish to do it so often especially when he has to work the next day. I guess I just don’t know if I’m overreacting or if he might have a problem.
Yeah…once a week is a bit too much IMO. I’m 31 and my partner is 35. We go out maybe once every couple months to blow off steam, but we’re not getting blackout drunk …
Agreed on frequency. I'm in my 40s and I can barely make it to midnight lol. I definitely go out for drinks with my friends once every couple weeks on like a Thursday (still probably in bed by 10), and then either Friday or Saturday- depending on what's going on, but then still home by midnight. When I was dating my last bf, I went out with my friends less frequently on the weekends, but I still feel like there was a good balance between friends and my then bf.
Have you talked to him about this? Have you asked him to have a relaxing night in instead of going out with his buddies once in a while?
I do think him saying "this is who I have always been" is the bigger red flag here, and that he's not trying to grow up. IMO- an alcoholic would be doing this every night, or drinking to get drunk every night (even at home). I do think it's immature of him to continue to do this and stay out that late, but I don't think he's an alcoholic
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