At what point in your career do you tone down your work life to focus on dating and potentially starting a family?

I’m looking for advice on a project on presidents that I do with my kids every year. See comment below for more info (not enough space here to type).

Single women, how do you prefer to meet men during these precarious times? Dating apps can be a slog. Any female fish here want to meet up for a drink? 33/M/recent transplant from NYC. Send me a DM!

Name the reaction you get when you tell dates you’re a lawyer:

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

I recently asked everyone’s age filters on dating apps and there were some mentions of fear of baggage and that’s why you don’t date older than X. What baggage are you afraid of? Ex spouses? Kids from prior relationships? What is it?

Well...I've finally made it in my marriage when we are reading each other's minds.

Been seeing a guy for the past few months. Went to watch a movie on Netflix last night and saw that my ex is in a new series. Talk about mood killer. Now I can’t stop thinking about him 😞
He tends to pop in to my head at least once a month. How can I move past this?

28M moved to Munich. Any F from DE or EU interested to connect please DM.

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

Starting at BCG in about a month. How have those working long hours able to find their SO? Should I give up on looking for an SO and try the toxic hookup culture? 23/M for reference.

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

Got a date with a girl I've admired for a while this weekend, where should I take her? Best romantic/fun date spots, ideally with great food or near great food. She has no dietary restrictions as far as I know. Thanks

Any female fish in Downtown SFO, want to grab a drink and bite? 30M here

Zanzibar vs Flimores. Which one is the best for a fun boys' night out in Toronto? Or any other recommendations?

After watching Arpana and her attitude in Indian Matchmaking, purani kahawaat yaad aagayi...
“ Na shakal na *^*^* Aur nakhre unchi unchi”

Do men in their 30s actually want to settle down and get married? It seems like most are pretty happy with their single lifestyle. Asking as a 26F who is looking for commitment if I should even bother

Loving the Olympics finally going on. In my eyes, the top sporting event. I say Olympics, World Cup, then the Super Bowl.

I’m looking for some new things to read or listen to — doesn’t need to be ad-related. Books, podcasts, whaddya got?
I’m not really into fiction, but open to anything. Last books I enjoyed were Junior and Moonwalking with Einstein, last podcast I binged was Startup (Gimlet).

Hello. A Strategy& recruiter reached out about a manager level role within the TMT team in the US. Would anyone be willing to share their perspective on WLB, travel, and sustainability (thinking of starting a family soon). Please feel free to DM or share your perspective over here. Thanks in advance!

Hi! I’m looking for a freelance graphic designer to help refresh some logos and YouTube banner/assets for my (small) YouTube channel and website. We review tech so ideally someone who has done modern-looking digital logos and may be a tech enthusiast themselves. Flexible on price and timing. TIA!

3 word story game. I'll start, then you add 3 words and do on. Let's make this interesting: Once, there was....

Been seeing a guy for the past few months. Went to watch a movie on Netflix last night and saw that my ex is in a new series. Talk about mood killer. Now I can’t stop thinking about him 😞
He tends to pop in to my head at least once a month. How can I move past this?

Does lululemon usually release a collection for pride?

Any plans for MLK day? I’m off tomorrow. 🥳

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These paychecks aren't cutting it. Side hustle ideas?

My agency doesnt use briefs to kick off any projects... Is this normal for an ad agency? They JUST got this account a couple months ago and it’s a huge account. Should I be concerned?

Does anyone know if this is normal? I joined a vault 100 firm in September last year. The firm put me on tier 7. In January I had the associate review and everything was normal. After a couple of weeks, I got the call from the hiring partner telling my bonus and new salary (because of the firm-wide salary increase). I realized I still get paid as a 7 year associate. The partner said because I joined the firm later in the year, it’s normal not to advance in the next year. Is it? Thanks!

How much package I can expect as powerbi developer. My current stack is MSBI and planing to learn powerbi. How much package should I expect? YOE -8.5

I have just immigrated to worth, Illinois from the Middle East. I have 6+ years of experience (proofed by a certificate) from Four Seasons Hotel Amman. Can anyone recommend a 5 stars hotel with front desk supervisor vacancy?

What are the perks and benefits of working at DBS, Hyderabad? DBS DBS Bank

What is exact in hand salary in Capgemini for 25L fixed, also in case of 10% and 15% variable pay

Anyone here work for a venture capital? Do you like it? How is it compared to working in FAANG?

My company went toxic in the last couple months. Chose me and started interviewing. Had a very successful interview with Amazon but recruiter is working hard trying to place me and said there’s no knowing how long to find a team. Meanwhile I just received a Director offer for a company with a 29% pay bump July 1. If Amazon or any other FAANG/large co gets back to me, is there an acceptable way to not burn bridges with new job and accept or delay start date with FAANG? Or fuck it just hop?

Do any of you have side-jobs or maybe hobbies that you make money from? Alternatively, what do you think sounds like a good one to look into?

Anyone working at Levy Ratner? How is the office culture and about how much do you get paid?

Any recommendations on relocating to Hawaii? I am registered for the Hawaii bar but currently based out of Los Angeles and practicing in California as a licensed attorney.

Anyone else use their laptop in a deposition instead of a pad and pen?

Anyone able to provide info on market comp for biglaw 5th-year in the Midwest (non-Chicago)?

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!

Quick temperature check: litigators, are you all underwater this month? This has been my busiest end of year season in actual years. I am getting slammed with expedited court deadlines from judges every, single, day. Clerks, what’s going on?! Send help.

Can someone please tell me what “suitussy” means

What are the bowl’s thoughts on how to list representative matters as a junior-mid? Is this even something we should be doing? What if it’s not in a jx we practice in, so our name is not on the docket, motions, etc.? TIA

What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed but still need to bill and meet deadlines?

Happy Be Kind to Lawyers Day!

Nothing like the named partner who you *know* is actively opposed to associate salary increases (despite living in a market where the COL has significantly risen and outpaced general inflation) telling you about how annoying it is to winterize her 4 mega luxury sailboats she has on her waterfront dock. 🙄

Hi! New attorney here. Licensed in January 2021.

I have a seriously hard time working all day. I went straight through, so part of it is probably just that I've never worked in an office before, but I have the hardest time getting in all my hours. Anyone else deal with that fatigue? Or figured out how to conquer it?

I wish I could just work all day but it's not coming naturally to me. I walk, I take breaks.... but it's hard

I have created a bowl for those who want to know more about their potential new firm - ask anonymously and hopefully someone within the firm will respond! Or we can help find the right person for you! Bowl name is biglaw offer - see you there!

Ah yes, the recurring partner message on a Sunday afternoon to f*ck up what’s left of my weekend

Not sure if this has been asked before but what are your billable expectations, what year are you, and what size firm are you at?

I have been lurking on fishbowl for a bit and it seems that my billable expectations at my small firm are too high (1850). I don’t hit them but neither does anyone else including senior associates / partners. Anyways, my boss is using that as an excuse to not give me a raise - so any insight you could provide would be helpful!

Has anyone left law completely and never looked back? I’m looking into a huge pay cut going to be an EMT, but I’d rather be happy than miserable.

Best Bumble/Hinge Profile Intro- GO

I need to perform well after months of bad performance for 6 months to not get fired I'm scared but want to do it impossible?

Motions
I work in a midsize firm and we have the basic subscription to westlaw, which doesn’t include the ability to see filed briefs, motions, etc without incurring additional costs. I’m wondering if there is a service in the NJ/PA area that gives you access to previously filed motions and briefs? So if I’m drafting a summary judgment I could search the service and find a similar one. If this doesn’t exist.. I think I found the next million dollar idea lol