At work, boss asked me to do some site visit and jokingly said you might run into hot gi*ls. Then another colleague that might go to site visit said “maybe he likes guys”. Boss then changed it to you might run into hot gi*ls and g*ys. I am very uncomfortable with this since I don’t want to be out and I have never shared this.

How do you deal with people who throw you under the bus because they’re the ones who are incompetent?

Why do guys don't ask girls on dates anymore? I know this guy likes me, he already told me friends so but hasn't acted or done anything in respect to us hanging out alone, such as get food

Actually starting to think I’ll be single forever. The apps go nowhere. How are you guys meeting people right now?

39M in West LA, looking to meet someone for drinks and see where things go! (Never married, no kids)

I find one of my clients breathtakingly gorgeous. I'm married so would never act on it, but it's noticeable enough to impact my behavior. I.e. this person doesn't have a ton of budget to spend with me, but I find myself going out of my way to help them because just wow

It’s 2020. Is a small dainty nose ring still perceived as unprofessional in the workplace? I work in the finance industry.

27M, Pakistani, 5’11, Pakistani, Philly

Funny [looking] guy looking for girl for marriage

Must be kind, soft hearted, warm, empathetic, intuitive, creative, passionate, wholesome, have ‘practical life experience’

Random keywords: Muslim, Sunni, plant dad, socks and sandals, Pakistani food > , laying in parks, overanalyzing movies and music, collecting credit card rewards points, Spotify playlists, long drives

Work: Supply Chain Consultant

It’s funny - I’ve been rejected so many times in my short career. But when it happens, I still feel a small sting. Just got dinged from an interesting role - how do you deal with the aftermath?

Late twenties M here. I like to travel, go on hikes and am pretty easy going. Any f wants to chat and see how it goes?

Any divorcee or single mom 🐠 here? I am separated, and it’s just been hard dating the other cohort. Looking for someone who understands what I have been through. 35 M here

How’s the dating scene in Austin? Any advice for a single 30 yr old Male who recently moved here?

Has anyone else ever dated a coworker?

I just left a very toxic work place.
The crazy thing is they were just named the best local municipality to work for. It's upsetting. They advertise a "culture" but don'tapply it. It felt like a used car sales pitch, I was sold a dream but given junk. I am constantly replaying moments. I have read so many books and everything leads to they were the problem. How do I recover from this?

I’ll be asking my last job for a letter of recommendation but I’m not sure who to ask. My boss, who is lovely and would write an amazing LOR. Or my boss's boss who would put minimal effort in but it would have more weight.

Scheduling added another S3 (my level) to my engagement but acting as a manager, while I’ve been on this engagement for a few years and getting great reviews. My ego is shot and I’m insulted. Advice?

Hi all! I’ve been dating my bf for about 4 months now and there are some things he says/is into that make me believe he is either Bisexual or has gender dysphoria. I could really use someone’s advice who has a similar experience like this. Is anyone willing to chat? I just want to be supportive and helpful.

What are your tips on convincing a fellow employee not to switch agencies? I really don't want to compete with them

This is twice now in back to back weeks my boss has asked me where the disconnect was in our communications because I didn’t deliver on what “was asked”, even though I know damn well what was asked and what was done were the same thing. I’m not sure if he’s changing the meaning or isn’t communicating what he’s envisioning or what but it’s embarrassing to be called out like that, and to have people think you’re the dumb 23 year old.

Anyone else’s love life so DRY that you find yourself having a crush on an older man at work who is in senior leadership? I keep it professional, but I feel like I’m doing something so bad by having this crush.

A creative team I started working with recently has decided to ignore my every comment. They take feedback from anyone else but me, and whenever I push them to make said changes, they just pick fights and make snarky comments. Anyone have any idea why this might be?

1) Hypothetically if you were looking to sabotage a colleague, can you code an excel document to throw off their numbers or calculations, (if you send them that document and they download it for use)?

My company covers in depth results each week, including meetings set/attended, wins, revenue, retention etc. I feel as if evaluating in such depth is detrimental to the psyche, as you never get to “ride the high.” In addition, some weeks are simply slower than others, and it’s not always representative of what the results at the end of the period or quarter will be. Is this not a big deal, and I’m I placing too much importance on it? Or is it beneficial to review results less frequently?

Guys, urgent help.
Need some help in filling pre joining details for CTS. Can someone please comment down, will ping them.
Thanks 😊

Are y’all waiting to do a mega backdoor Roth to see what they do about build back better this year or just moving forward with it?

Anyone with a Bajaj Allianz policy? I had one 10 years ago that is maturing this month and want to figure out how I can ensure it gets transferred to my account. It is so hard to use their website or do anything with it, to get access to a help desk!

Hello IBMers,
IBM has offered me X amount ctc and i accepted it on portal....now got to know that market valuation for 10.3 yoe is greater than offered ctc....can i ask HR to increase the ctc and change the band...will they consider it?...not holding any counter offer as of now

A post-mort meeting scheduled with:
6 account
2 strategists
1 creative

Sounds like an ambush!

Hi All

Received offer from HCL for 19LPA
YOE 7.1
Band E3
Associate Consultant
Domain Network Security

CCTC 14LPA
I asked 20LPA.

Is 19 LPA good package for the E3 band?

Is it possible to transfer from audit 8 months in to FDD considering this market? I feel undervalued and want to contribute more…

Can anyone share their experiences in PwC delivering deal advisory? What’s a typical day for a senior? What are pay and hours like? I was sure I wanted to do FDD but I just came across this type of work and the hours seem better and it isn’t all accounting based. Appreciate the help.

Is it mandatory to return to office this year from sep 1 ???

How does diplomatic immunity cover running someone over while driving the wrong way down the street?

Looking for recommendations of at home workout videos for first trimester pregnancy. Please share any that work well for you.

Currently 16 weeks with an inconsistent bump. Sometimes is noticeable and other times it’s not, anyone experienced this? Currently it went back to almost non existent and am worried

To go from TN to GC, do I need to reach i-140 or AOS (I-485?) within the TN expiration date?

Is there an email I can use to contact delta?

Power out so I’m off early on a Friday! But, now my power is out…

I have a PwC Pride sticker, but am afraid to put it on my laptop or water bottle because I don't know how receptive my team or clients will be. Do you guys wear pride gear at werk?

Anyone here using Apretude (new injectable Prep medication)? Is your insurance covering?

I feel like I’ve lost myself since joining McK. My whole world has become about work. I love my job but I’m not the same person I started and I feel I don’t connect with my friends and family the way I use to. I’m not sure if I’ve grown, or lost a part of myself. Is this growing up or do I need to make a career change?

I know I will get hated by saying this. Do you think gay pride events are portraying a bad image about our community to public? (Drugs, sexual, inappropriate clothes, and sometimes like strip clubs- some parts). I know it is right to present us but I just feel it is not the right way to show who we are. I wish the pride where everybody can connect in a more friendly way (outdoor game- team work, dance, drink something not too sexual.) there are some good parts of pride tho. Any opinions?

What do you do when your date expects you to pay? I don’t mind paying for the first time, but it’s a bit of a turnoff for me. I also don’t want to set the expectation that I’ll be paying for the following dates.

Any non-cishet male folks want to chat? Missing community right now!

I’m a really good matchmaker. Like...actually really good. I’m thinking about starting a business. Would you consider a matchmaker?

I need to switch teams or firms. Been here for a year and no development or projects with my team. Gay network help! Lol

Hi everyone,

29F in my second year of business school and going on exchange CBS in NYC for 5 months. I want to have a fun experience, meet other WLW, queers, and take advantage of what the city has to offer. I will be living in midtown west.
Where should i hang out? the bars? night club? gym for work out?

There’s now a lawsuit in Texas challenging PREP. How much longer do y’all plan to live in the US? This is actually how I predicted this would unfold. That folks with moral objections would file a lawsuit like this, and then get it up to The Church for review, and then overturn Lawrence v Texas. This is just happening a lot faster than I thought.

Poll on general attitudes towards open relationships? I’m in one and find that some folks are totally non-judgmental about it, while others are so vicious/rude about it. Curious about your opinions! I understand that every open relationship is different, and each couple defines their own arrangement/rules. For context, ours is a passive one that’s hardly acted on, but we both have Grindr and meet guys for fun on the very odd occasion (whether together or apart). If you’re in one, describe yours!

Anyone up ? 😉

Gay men think having a muscular body makes up for a mediocre career, lack of emotional or intellectual depth, and think they can pull dudes that have it all. Think again scrub 😌

How many of you are in an interracial relationship? And what are yours and your partner's ethnicities?Just wanted to do a quick poll :)

Anyone Boston next week?

Overseas on a study and finding a hot expat to help me with some in-room dining.. sometimes we get food. This job is alright sometimes

The new junior on my team is from the South and refers to me as “Sir” and it’s making me feel all kinds of ways. How to proceed from here?

Matched with a guy on Tinder. Had a great first date. We are stilling chatting on WhatsApp. But he has disappeared from my tinder (presumably, he unmatched with me). Is it typical for ppl to unmatch on Tinder when they are still interested in you?

I like it when a guy’s feet are smelly. Is it weird?