Best way to deal with stress? I get stressed over the tiniest things and automatically assume the worst scenario which makes me pretty overwhelmed. I feel like it’s gotten worse over time too!

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Talk therapy and I use an app: Calm
There are specific practices on there like “mindfulness at work” and “calming anxiety”.
I also work out / take a run when I can fit it into my schedule. A 5-10 minute walk outside of the office (if you can) during the workday once or twice helps as well.

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I used to stress like this. Then I started asking myself, how many times has the worst case scenario actually occurred? Even if it were to occur, Let’s say if I was called in to get laid off, what could I actually do in those moments to prevent that?

The answer is usually not much. The only things I usually can alter the outcomes for are the situations where it is not a worst case scenario. I try to focus on that, and go from there.

The only thing I could do is start packing my stuff up so I can leave earlier and get started on my resume and putting myself out there. So I would do that.

When you get down to it we are wired to believe that fraction of a percent occurrence of the worst case scenario could come true, is way more likely, and it is just not the case. I chose to become very analytical about the situations and my options. I chose not to live in fear and worry. That may sound incredibly simple, and like I’m minimizing the issue; however, I assure you it was a long road. In the end I became a better leader, and helped my team stop worrying about what we can control. We have to focus on what we can.

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A Green Beret who served in Vietnam taught me this breathing technique they were taught so they could be as calm as possible while deployed--- Anytime you need to refocus and/or feel calmer: Slowly inhale through your nose for 3 seconds, hold the air in your lungs for three seconds, then exhale/blow slowly through your mouth for 6 seconds (as if you're blowing up a balloon). Repeat this 8-10 times as needed, it also helps to do this with your eyes closed and visualizing your favorite calm space. The technique naturally helps ease the fight/flight response.

Other things I do that help me: Go for a walk outdoors everyday, or even a few short ones. Supplement Calcium/Magnesium/D3 (I feel noticeably better when I've been taking it more consistently). Journal, read or other calming hobbies.

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Me too. Therapy. Cognate behavioral therapy thought records

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