Confession: Sometimes I wish I was white so I wouldn't have to deal with the microaggressions and other things.

I hate my firm and the people I work with. Every single little thing I do in my work product is scrutinized for a minor mistake and then Im yelled at for being incompetent and I get blamed for things out of my control. Feel like I'm being held to higher standard and that the Partners are not really invested in me. It feels isolating and I just feel like an outsider here.

Curious what firms are doing to keep people socializing during COVID. I miss my coworkers but I'm sick of zoom calls.

My manager continues to ask me to help other teams and do work on other billable projects. I’m sick of it .. and I’m going to explicitly say that no I can’t do it because my hours are taken by the existing project we are doing. Is this appropriate?

If buy the partners you work with regularly a holiday gift, how much do you spend? Usually I get baked goods or food items which you can’t tell the actual amount spent on. This year, though, I’d like to support local restaurants by encouraging people to order takeout—hence, giving gift cards.

How much is appropriate for a restaurant gift card from an associate to a partner?

Not me raging, but two SMs on my project were getting heated on a call today. It ended with a “we’re taking this offline”, that’s when you know it’s bad

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.

Is my manager forcing me out?

In our 121 last we had a good discussion on creating a personal development plan, with the idea being I’d write down clear goals & action points to get from my current level to the next, and I’d provide weekly evidence of it. I prepped the doc accordingly, but instead of wanting to discuss it, he said I have 4 weeks to “turn things around” - without giving any new info on what I’ve done wrong - esp given I wrote my goals based on this same feedback from last week??

Check me here: other side attorney has already reached out to me directly via email saying that an LOI is coming… Then, she sends the LOI addressed to my client, and CC:s me only. It should have been addressed & emailed to me, and copy the business folks, when an attorney knows the other side is represented by an attorney. Am I overreacting for being annoyed?

what’s the best way to go about telling your manager a deadline they promised is unreasonable/almost impossible

At a small firm, but I have another gay associate in my practice "group" super excited.

Have too much on your desk? Maybe one of those briefs is a bit boring?
Send it my way, I'm here to flex my copy muscles for you.

All I ask is you give me feedback when I send it back.

Thinking about getting a Speedmaster Pro moon chrono (one with skeleton case back). Good value? Could I wear as a daily wearer to client?

Females, how much of your personal life do you disclose to the men in your team? I.e. Lovers, relationships, ONS etc

Am I particularly uptight, or is writing meant to be done alone, without a partner talking to you? With past partners, we chat through script notes and then I go off to execute. Current partner likes to sit and chat as I write. To me, writing is crafting a conversation. So I can’t talk to you and simultaneously talk to this audience. Of course I can just say “I’m gonna go write.” But since we’re both CD level, I’m like…is this his first rodeo? Maybe other writers are different though.

Who hates being micromanaged by your boss? I had to deal with a boss who had to be involved with every little thing and it drove me nuts, and made me feel like she didn’t trust me.

What’s your favorite WFH footwear? Any recommended brands for a chilly home office?

Think my team hates me lmao

Favorite jeans brand for wearing to work in a business casual environment?

What do you tell your CEO who wants ROI on PR campaigns?

What are some creative ways that I can reward my team? They've been working really hard lately and I want to show my appreciation

I work part time for a startup for equity and am attending an event on behalf of the startup. I’ve only been here a few months and asked multiple times to have a prep meeting with my boss. He instead sent me a 15 page document outlining 40 questions I should be able to answer the day before the event.
I’m so incredibly stressed as I don’t want to show up unprepared and make myself look bad. Idk how to make light of this situation at this point

Has UST Global opened any office in Kolkata?

How do you handle people complaining about store policies? I don't make the rules, but I don't want to be rude

Any single female fish is this bowl enjoy dating men In their late 30s

Looking to ask for a transfer to USI from US in 2 months. Anyone gone through this and willing to share their experience ?

If I’m reaching out cold for tech recruiting, would you rather receive an email or LinkedIn message?

Anyone ever have experience negotiating a new offer to include unvested 401k match and stock grants from your current employer? I hate leaving money on the table but there are some good roles out there. I’m not fully vested in my current 401k yet and my stock grants haven’t matured yet either. This would be at a global director level.

UX Designer - 5+ years of experience

What Salary i can expect with this experience.?
and please do mention what you guys are earning and Company. it will help others to achieve their Salary expectations.

Role - Experience - CTC - Company

Hi Fishes,

I was offered RSUs for the first time as part of my compensation. I think I understand the concept as such but there are a few intricacies I was looking to clarify. Could anyone let me know if my grant date is 9th nov, 2022 and vesting period is 1 year, will I get RSUs allotted at the price of stock on grant date or vest date (in this case 9th nov, 2023)? Happy to connect in DMs as well

Thank you for your time!

Hi,
My date of joining in TCS is 16th November 2022

- Will the onboarding be virtual or physical?
- How many days would it take before I get a laptop and start working?

Couples without kids, how do you justify buying a house and paying school taxes? Almost all of the good residential areas are with a high school tax. Just curious if childless couples can ever buy and live in nice areas or rent forever

I am moving to Charlotte, NC for a new job. I currently live in Portland, OR and have a single family home here. With my income, and current mortgage, I can afford a 350k house I’m Charlotte with about 10% down. What are the pros and cons of buying a new place in Charlotte and then sell my house in Portland?

Why do you think firms got away not paying overtime or paying so little?

What’s the average age for making partner at the top consulting firms?

Persistent offer letter has huge component of Other Bonus, In my case it's around 8 lakh rupees... Anyone working at Persistent can tell?? If this is paid 100%(in monthly salary) or there are some terms and conditions around this?? Persistent Systems Limited

I accept follow requests left & right without following back and without shame. What does this say about me besides that I and, let’s say Beyoncé, are generally very similar?

I just started taking mirtazapine again b/c depression has completely taken over my life.

Not looking forward to the weight gain 😕

Anyone else a bit annoyed with the announcers right now? I get you disagree with the decision to not start the race, but man there was so much rain out there I can’t blame race control. I think it’s Crofty, not 100% sure, but the comments like “that car should have a driver in it going around the circuit right about now” are a bit much for me. Anyone else feel the same or am I just overreacting?

I have a side gig consulting business specializing in data analytics, PowerBI, API integrations, data warehouses, and Amazon PPC. My team and I have worked with multiple top Amazon companies to do this. Anyone know someone who needs this ?! Let’s chat !

Any really impactful books that have helped you career-wise? Not necessarily consulting focused. In need of guidance and a new book so figured I'd kill two birds with one stone or whatever.

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

I’m not sure what I’m looking for in this post, but I feel I just need to get stuff off my chest. I’m a new attorney, my first job is as an ADA in a large county in a rural comm. It’s only my 1st month in the position and I’m having trouble feeling as though people are complacent and often times careless with peoples lives. I’m the only Latin/POC ADA and 80% of our defendants are Latino when they make only 25% of the county pop. We have LOTS of discretion to offer pleas, but honestly I’m not

I’m a woman of color and my legal assistant is a white man…this feels…good?

What are the chances of getting a lower offer because you're POC applying at a fairly large law firm? Not big law or anything but still. Friend and I both got offers, came out of the same school and have very similar internship experience. He's white and I'm not, his offer is significantly higher. How low is low enough to walk away?

Has anyone found success developing business or building their book? Specifically businesses (not individuals)? Looking for new ideas to get clients in the door.

Today is the first day of the new work week! What are your goals for this week?

Did anyone from your past tell you you wouldnt make it as a lawyer? Did you ever rub it in their face later that you in fact did?? 😂

Does anyone have any side hustles apart from their day-to-day? If so, what are some suggestions that work well while practicing law?

My work quality is slipping due to brain fog and mental health issues and I don’t know how to address it with my firm or who to go to. I was considered one of the best associates in our practice group, but now it can take me 3-4x the time to write an average brief. I can’t seem to think and organize my thoughts any more. This is incredibly scary bc obvi, that’s what this job is all about. I’m in IP litigation at a V50 firm and a mom. Do I raise it with partners and how?

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

I'm a younger plaintiff's side attorney (31). Does anyone else feel like white attorneys give you a particularly harder time? Like unreasonably denying clear facts, or trying to fish for a way to sanction you? Usually it's solo defense attorneys that get extreme with it, but I've seen some questionable stuff from BigLaw too. Hopefully I'm not the only one.

Thoughts on whether DC or NYC is a better place to be as an attorney of color?

What was your experience with the LSAT? Do you think it's gatekeeping, preventing students who can't afford it (often people of color) from entering the field? OR is it helping future attorney's of color by giving them a chance to go to a top school regardless of grades? I've seen questions about the LSAT all day and just want to know how people feel.

I feel like I'm going through really bad imposter syndrome, How do you manage it ?

Single black female. Late 30s, no kids. Is it better to practice in a smaller market that’s close to major cities, lots of professional opportunities, but no real single professional scene? OR be in a bigger pond/major city with more professional and networking opportunities, oversaturated with lawyers of color, more competition for professional opportunities, but bigger dating pool?

Are y’all finding your white male bosses to be incompetent as hell or is just me? And they will milk you for all your brilliance and try to squeeze every ounce of labor out of you.

A partner just walked from his office. By passed 4 or 5 people who are generally more knowledgeable on our banking logistics straight to the only black support staff employee to@ask if today is a bank holiday.

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.