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Just end things. If you’re only 4 months in and already constantly arguing, that’s a bad sign. Love is just a feeling; there will be plenty of other people to date once you get over her.
How do you love someone you've only known for 4 months? If you have to ask this question at this stage, it probably won't get better.
End it. You will be much happier when you find a relationship that does not require this kind of effort.
End it. I say this with love but I suggest counseling. It’s not a healthy relationship and it’s concerning that you want to stay and that you say you’re on edge about losing her. Best of luck. Better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.
I think its just tough love, thats all it is. Love her but shes too much.
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I don’t think it’s supposed to be this hard dude. Especially this early... you guys probably aren’t compatible. I would end it if I were you
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4 months...of course I agree that you can try to make it work some, but if talks and stuff don’t fix it within a few weeks (which would be nearly a quarter your relationship!) then gotta get out. If you and her can’t make it work after this little amount of time, pretty unlikely this lasts forever, so not much reason to continue
“Nothing really changed on her end” - ?
And what about you?
It takes two to tango. If you fight then you have your part in that game too. Ask yourself: what do you get out of this that makes you stay?
It’s not love. Love is respect and accepting a person for who she is.
Yeah ive made so many changes and its bringing me so far down. I think its obvious what has to happen. It just sucks
Hi all, thanks for all your wise words of wisdom. Things are over between us and I honestly dont feel as bad as i thought i would...(yet).
Just don’t get married
End it. If you're asking the question, you already know.
You should have an honest conversation with her about what you both are looking for in a partner, what you won’t tolerate, and if there’s things you both can improve to reach that happy point and understanding. People can fall in love hard in 4 months depending how often you see each other and depth of conversations. I wouldn’t dismiss the seriousness of a relationship because it has only been 4 months. Everyone moves at different speeds but what is important is communication, chemistry, and making sure you uphold to your standards and not settle for any less than you deserve or realistically desire.
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Yeah of course you should. But you wont for a while. But of course you should.
What are the issues?
Small things, i cant even think of what we fight over. But we’re both always on edge about losing eachother
Do the arguments yield any new insight or closeness or do you have the same fight over and over again?
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Two schools of thought.
One, you probably should just end it.
However, these aren't normal times. COVID makes dating challenging.
4 months with problems? Yes, break it off. There will be another person for you in the future if you want there to be.
End it. 4 months is too early to be constantly fighting.