Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

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I'm guessing that she is very pretty. Was that why you loved her?

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Wait is this one of the sub plots on Crazy Rich Asians? I know how this ends!

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LOL, the movie need to have sequel then people will see the post married life problems 😅

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Why did you both get married?

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Oh, was going to say to try to do those things that attracted you both in the first place. I don’t know she sounds out of touch. Not sure therapy would help in this situation either.

What does 'family' mean here - are you saying your fantastically rich wife won't use her money to support herself or to raise her own kids?

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🚩🚩🚩

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Are you saying you lied to her about your family status, set her to have different expectations that was in line w her own family background and then she realised you lied to her and didn't want to compromise her original way of life? What was going on when you guys dated, were you extra extravagant to lead her on? Anyway, doesn't matter, I can't see this working out. She doesn't want to pay for you, and you don't earn enough to maintain her lifestyle expectations and she has a means for it. But I wouldn't frame her as in the wrong here, I sense you were deceitful to get into this marriage and frustrated your plan to trap her to bring you to her own lifestyle level didn't work and want to blame her for it.

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This sounds really odd. I’m not clear about why she wouldn’t use her money to benefit the family (or at least the children). Her behavior sounds emasculating and selfish. Too many 🚩 to count.

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Then pls leave quickly, thx

Sounds like you’ve tolerated an ever increasing amount of slights without an appropriate reaction. Partners not only compromise, they hold each other accountable.

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Married to a girlfriend? I’m confused.

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•How can you be married and refer to her as a “crazy rich girlfriend”?
•Isn’t socioeconomic status important in the Asian community? How then did you two even come to meet let alone have both sides agree to said marriage?
•The same red flags she has now surely were present while you two dated. Did you view her wealth and status as a “come up”? Because otherwise, this story is sounding very far fetched and bizarre
•If your money is used for EVERYTHING, what exactly is she contributing?

It sounds like there was some deceit on one or both parts… good luck! I honestly don’t see this ending well

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Try marriage counseling and if that doesn’t work then save yourself anymore headaches and heartache and divorce her. Is this an arrangement type of marriage?

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As newlyweds you can't even cuddle? Was there even a honeymoon period when you were dating?! I'm confused how it changed so much post-marriage. Does she have a personality disorder and the marriage triggered a discard without you knowing it?

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I guess reality kicked in. We started in small apartment & i had limited income. We can't eat outside and have fun all the time. No maid or chef to help with the household activities..

Where in Asia are y’all from btw. Just curious about what culture we’re dealing with here…

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Tell her to hit me up.

How much is your comp? If it's less than me, then you should run away lol

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Do you feel like you can add value in ways other than just financially?

I have tried but she wasnt responding well. Tried to organize fun activities, asked her to go the gym but nothing worked so far

Did you have a prenup? Divorce might be the best thing to happen to you…

Time for you to ✌🏻 out

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What do you have in common as people? What shared interests? What similar values?

How did you get married?
There were peer pressure but didn’t discuss likes, dislikes, financial status? Just curious.

It was my mistake not being transparent with my real family condition. I have a good job with a pretty high salary but my family comes from a middle class background.

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