Did your boss change a full 360 with you after you told her you were pregnant? I’m a very emphatic person and I can just feel the shift of attitude and our conversations since I’ve told her. She’s actually become more of a fucking hard ass and it’s really stressing me out.

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Do you know if your boss has had any difficulty with becoming pregnant? Has had loss of a pregnancy or any difficulty in that arena? That's what I would first look for with a change in attitude like this.

My second look would be at your relationship BEFORE you announced your pregnancy. We're you very close and worked well together? If so, she's probably scares of losing you and she's definitely scared of you leaving for however many months your maternity leave will be. This could possibly be her way of starting to distance herself from you so she preserves herself as much as possible. It sounds stupid but there are probably a trillion things surrounding it.

If the first and second aren't issues then it could be straight up jealousy or anger at you. I'm not sure if you have other children but this will make you less available, less likely to participate in certain activities, etc. She's jealous of the baby.

You will also need to take into account if this is you perceiving something that actually isn't happening. You're more sensitive because of an increase in hormone production. Other good people to help you to gage this are your significant other, you immediate family, your close friends. Ask them to be 100% honest because sugar coating it is going to hurt your career.

No matter what, it's important to sit down and discuss with your boss. If it's her, ask about what changed. If you're getting signals it's you, let her know that you've been told you're more sensitive right now and she needs to know in the event you have an adverse reaction to something she says or asks of you.

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My first thought was the same as the other poster: perhaps your boss is struggling with fertility issues herself. As someone who dealt with infertility, I know how hard it is to hear that someone else is pregnant. And, we as a culture don't talk about infertility, which is a huge problem as it's a pervasive issue with deep psychological impact.

I would definitely have a talk with her to see if maybe there is some underlying issue and see if maybe she is just feeling a different way now because you will have much more of an obligation at home then you did before (assuming you didn't have children already of course).

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