Does your partner unload their problems on you as soon as you get in the door before you’ve even caught a breath? How do you deal?

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“Welcome back from your hotel vacation. Here are the kids."

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Team dinners and late client meetings, is it just me or is ‘being on site’ code for working non stop from wheels up to wheels down? Maybe that’s the point.... 🙄

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Whenever I feel myself getting annoyed or bored by this I try to reframe it like, she missed me, she had only unsympathetic work people to talk to, and I have to pick up my slack having not been around to listen, nod and sympathize these last few days. Plus, she does all the stuff around the apartment and for the kids while I’m away, how I behave in these 15 minutes sets the tone of whether she’s happy to see me return.

Suck it up and be present when you’re home

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My wife and I have discussed this at length. Those first interactions do set the mood and that applies for both sides. I understand that my wife needs to vent and she understands that it is overwhelming and counterproductive if she does it before I’ve settled in for a moment.

For those saying suck it up: not exactly a healthy mode to resolve conflict as it will only result in repressed anger and resentment. Talk and find a path forward that satisfies both of your wants and needs.

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You get to sleep for 3 nights...uninterrupted! Suck it up. I also get the “honey do list” along with the baby 👶

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I think PwC1 and SM2 are both right. Yes, you should suck it up, being a consultant is way easier than being a stay at home parent. But at the same time, if the first thing that happens is you getting vented to instead of her being happy to see you...well there are other issues you need to resolve.

What do u do when u don’t even want to have discussions with ur SO bc u r resentful and have built up anger that will only lead to a shouting match?

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