Family comes first, always. It was a hard-fought transition for me as a recovering workaholic, but I'm happier now than I've ever been having my priorities straight!

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I am 100% with you on that OP. I used to do nothing but work and I quickly realized how much I was missing out on with my family. Now I have strict boundaries and my work life balance is better than ever.

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If I put my unemployed spouse first we’d be homeless because there’s no safety net if my company decides that they don’t like that attitude. It’s a great sentiment in theory but I choose not to live in a tent on a sidewalk. If he had a job I’d have the privilege of being able to draw boundaries.

…so, why are you still married?

I agree , I was like that too, worked in a high paced org for first 6 years, it took me another 6 years to get out of the work alcoholism and my husband and my kindergartener stayed put with me. Now I am clear and keep straight boundaries 99%

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