Fish, have you had a hard time with your parents/in-laws listening to the social distancing guidelines. I live in the same city as my in-laws and they are having happy hours in their driveways, going to parks, etc... we have a small kiddo and they want to see him, but I can’t bring myself to take them over there because they are so lax with social distancing. Has anyone else experienced this?

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What's wrong with going to the parks? You can easily keep social distancing in a park. Do you know how they have happy hour in their drive way? If it's anything what some of my neighbors been doing, they sit in their lawn chairs in their respective driveway and have a adult concoction and talk to each other's across the yards.

Might want to ask them more about this things before you judge them unless you seen first hand them constantly practicing bad social distancing.

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@D2: Ditto. We live in a townhouse and have had numerous social distancing happy hours and dinners with our next door neighbors. We sit and eat/drink on our deck and they sit and eat/drink on their deck ~20 feet away.

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Not my parents or in-laws, but a ton of friends in our circle are blatantly disregarding the guidelines and give us grief for not hanging out. I’m 37 weeks pregnant and have to be extra careful. I just tell them we can’t hang out and we won’t be able to after the baby either. It is what it is. I don’t feel bad and I don’t apologize.

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OP what are you worried about? Maybe our “elders” have some wisdom for us to learn from.

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Ah yes. So stay away from them if you’re worried then!

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TLDR: yes, wrote letter explaining that if they didn’t start acting right they risk dying alone, crushing their grandchildren’s hearts, and becoming just a statistic because they thought going out was more important than their health.

Had a similar problem with mine. They were on the, “just the flu” bandwagon and weren’t socially distancing. To make it worse, my father has kidney and heart problems and caught a bad case of pneumonia in early fall which hospitalized him for a few days.. so pretty much prime covid pickings.

After not getting through to them verbally, I wrote them a letter where i spelled out how much their grandchildren love them, how this situation was hard on them as it is, and how it would crush them if their grandparents died right now - especially if their death was because they simply refused to socially distance and take care of themselves. I also explained that if they got sick none of us could help them - we would not even get the chance to say goodbye.

I then compared the data we had at the time from Italy and whuan and related it back to the projections we had for the US. Basically painting a picture of possibility and asking them to help me keep that as just a nightmare.

It worked to a degree. They now go out only when necessary and wear masks when they do. They’ve begun to embrace home delivery of groceries and what not. And, they now seem to also understand that their actions and health have direct impact on their grandchildren and the people that they love.
It’s still a struggle and I have to keep tabs on them but it helped.

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Woah. That’s solid SC3. I hope it doesn’t come to that, but this is helpful. Thanks! And hope y’all are doing well

I have the same in-laws.... 🥺

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I should say that they are “maintaining a social distance” but they joke about it like it’s some sort of bullsh*t rule

My parents are in their 70s and they are completely self quarantining. My sister drops off groceries on their porch.

Back in March, my mom had flu symptoms and I and my siblings had to convince her to get tested. She did, and thankfully tested negative. That experience may have helped them take it more seriously.

Yeah, OP, my in ex in laws are very lax. My ex wife has had pneumonia for a couple of months (non Covid apparently) and just getting better. I have to bring our kids over there weekly. Their neighborhood is doing social events like mentioned above and kids play together in common areas. One neighbor has a gym in his garage that the whole neighborhood can use. It’s clearly people caring about each other, but definitely ignoring recommendations how to combat the virus.

The thing with small children that some on here don’t understand probably is that they won’t social distance no matter how often you tell them.

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