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How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭
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I was in your spot long long ago. It was by far the hardest break up that I did not want. We were engaged and talking about our wedding. We met in New York where we both went to undergrad, we dated almost 4 years. I practically failed the semester, gained weight, the works. I was convinced he still loved me. It was a rough time for me. He told he he did not love me. I did not believe him but w the help of my sisters, I had to let it go. But…I don’t believe, in good faith (as I look back) I did let it go bc i married the rebound guy and divorced him 5 years later . I was in therapy for myself during the end of the marriage.
Whatever happens you will get through it, just know that. Be honest with her. Speak from the heart. More importantly listen to her, listen to her like it’s the first time you met her, or when you were at your best as a couple. Be authentic. Good luck. Please keep us posted. You got this 💖
You admittedly messed up. She’s standing on her principles. You lost a good one. Take your L, move on and leave her alone so she can heal.
I know I’m not the victim here. I’ve been working with a therapist to know how much this hurts for her, to live in her shoes. I know there’s some deep, underlying conflict aversion that kept the ex around so long.
I’m also really hurt here too, looking for some sympathy, some way to move forward. I was building my life around this woman. I was highly, highly invested in her and she was in me.
Whatever happens, just remember you’ll get through it and you’ll be ok
Be ready to let go
Keep these two things in mind, and then speak to her honestly about how you feel (the positives and the negatives)
Still, the outcome may not be what you want - and that’s ok
Don’t want to sound patronising but you’ll get over it eventually. Everything in life comes to an end you have to accept this. People come into your life for a set number of years or a certain period of time and then they leave that’s it. You can’t win her back just be grateful for your time with her. Also consider that before you met her you were living your life, so you will be ok after she leaves your life. Time heals everything. Good luck.
The fact that she expects exes to be cut off means she has trust issues. You cannot get past this. Get therapy, so you have a chance to get over her.
What I did compared to her and if did something so bad didn’t she leave the first,second,third etc. your not the only one and I know she will continue so good luck
You don’t win her back. Get jacked, make some money and move on. If you’re in shape and make money, it only gets better as a guy
Sorry to hear this but not sure there is much you can do. What is her reasoning ? You can’t force someone to love or be with you
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Are you sure nothing physical happened with this ex?
Still lying