I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months now, and I am just feeling emotionally exhausted becuz I don’t know how to confide in him, like I need emotional intimacy and he sucks at it. How long does it take for a guy to open up and confide in you? I can’t feel so alone everyday and uncomfy around him, it’s making me insane. I am going thru a layoff too and my life is collapsing around me and I feel like he doesn’t make me feel stable either, like he’s not my comfort. He’s consistent and loyal but….

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Why does everything seems so transactional or formal, I don’t even know that he even knows how to be close to someone

Without more context it’s been 4 months…what do you expect the man to do?

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