Had a relapse and binge drank a bunch of vodka seltzers 😞 I just wish I could drink like a normal person. I hate this so much. Does it get better?

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My experience, is that my drinking (and the consequences and remorse) were only getting worse over time. I found AA (thank goodness) and it was in the rooms that I heard that alcoholism is an “incurable, progressive, fatal disease” that never gets better. As I watched other folks go in and out, they confirmed for me that a period of sobriety does not mean that I am “better”. Working the AA program however, has been proven to arrest the disease (and provide so much more).

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It absolutely got better for me (by asking for help and doing what was suggested to me). Don't beat yourself up over a relapse. Learn from it and try again. We are here to help.

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The worst time emotionally in my drinking history is when I finally conceded that I had a problem with alcohol, yet continued to think that I could learn to drink normally. Constantly failing at staying sober, and also constantly failing at drinking "normally."

It only started getting better for me after I had finally conceeded to my innermost self that I couldn't control my alcohol consumption l, and got even better when I reached out for help.

I don't obsess about drinking or not drinking anymore, my mind is now truly free from the grips of alcohol.

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echoing what other said. It got way better when i admitted i could never drink like a normal person, and that is ok, and that i just can't handle booze.

my mind wants me to start drinking warm vodka at 6:30am...that's not how a normal person drinks but it is definitely what i want to do.

Thus, i can't drink like a normal person. I'm not a big AA person, but the 1st step speaks to me profoundly. i am a successful person, i have friends and family, but i am completely and utterly powerless over alcohol and my life is a mess with booze in it. My life without booze, is really fantastic at this point. so yah, it got better.

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Working on our sobriety is essentially working on and changing the self, and developing/applying skills and tools to defend against our disease. The more effort, attention and self awareness you put into this effort, consistently, the better the results you will experience. But as the program tells us, we seek progress, not perfection. Understand the roots causes behind this lapse, discuss it with your sponsor or with others in the program, circle back to a prior/previous step if signs are clear that you need to. In the meantime, do your best to cover the basics: don't drink, go to meetings. One sober day at a time.

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I had a ton of relapses and failed attempts to stop before coming to terms with the fact that I can’t drink alcohol like a normal person, and that complete sobriety is the only way. I joined AA and have been working the steps and I’m now sober for over a year and my life has improved dramatically. I’d recommend finding a program.

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Hi! Been on the recovery journey for more than 16 years and have learned some valuable lessons and tools. Yes it Will get better but we’ve got to have a sufficient plan of action! If you are interested I have a collection of shorts on YouTube @therecoverywizard that provide some glimpses into what we are dealing with and how to find sustainable peace and contentment! - Much Love

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