Has anyone eloped?

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I did the first time around. We were on a vacation out west and flipped a coin to decide if we should do it (we already had kids together, so it didn't seem like a big deal). Ended up getting married in a strip mall between a Subway and a CVS with two for-hire witnesses we paid $40. I went the traditional route with my second marriage, 10 years in and it's working out much better than the first.

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Just did in France!

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Yep, started planning a wedding for all of a few weeks and ended up at the courthouse on a Tuesday instead. The costs and the stress, drama was already putting a bad taste in both our mouths, so that is what worked for us. That being said I had a ton of fun helping plan my best friend's wedding!

We ended up eloping and honestly it was the best thing we ever did. We were both working full time and very busy while trying to plan a wedding. It was going to be very expensive and was becoming more of a headache than an enjoyable thing to do. I am glad we ended up eloping and spending less than what we would have spent on the wedding.

I always thought I would have a nice wedding, but my fiance is making me feel like I would have to plan and do everything. I already have to keep after him to take showers and brush his teeth, so raising my fiance sucks enough to honestly not want to plan anything.

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