I try to mentally play it off like I don’t care or only go where you’re wanted, but it sometimes stings when a group of friends hang out and don’t invite you. Makes you wonder why or what I do?

How practical is living as a single parent in Europe (scotland/Norway)?

Anyone else dealing with emotional trauma that is bubbling back up thanks to all the free time we have to think about shit endlessly? Or the fact that frustrating family brings up stuff, but since they are now 80% of your human interaction, it's a lot more overwhelming? How are you dealing with it?

My s/o and I were in a very long relationship that just ended. We have so much financial ties that I feel we need a separation agreement to resolve these issues. Has anyone heard of a non married separation agreement?

Hello my desai colleagues! I'm a proper ABCD, I have lived in India for all of 3 years. When I go to visit, I have a hard time connecting with the family members there. Most of my family is in Chennai

I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

My AMAB 10yo told us they are non-binary. Any thoughts, advice, resources for parenting enby kids?

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

Would anyone consider their senior colleagues to be their genuine friends?

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

Has anyone here been in a situation where following up to the wedding was a lot of stress and fighting, but after you got married things became better?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

I hate being a mom, didn't think I would

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

What do you all do to make non-professional / personal connections? Particularly with the Coronavirus, and being in domestic relations, I wake up, go to work, work out, go home. So outside of law, my interactions with people are only at the gym given that my area is draining— particularly at the moment. Probably a good thing for now; but if we take coronavirus out of the equation, I’m interested what others in the community do to develop personal connections.

Do HRs actually send you a notification if you are rejected in the hiring process or do they just ignore your profile without any rely. Let’s see which percentage is more more!

Hey Fishes.
Can someone give insights on the bonus(variable) component in Juniper salary.
What part of it can one expect to get?

Thoughts: Managers and senior managers should intervene when project folks starts working more than 8 hours. It's sad that initially everybody talks about 8 hours work goal but employee forced or end up working more than 10 hours. Company is not asking you to work more than 8 hours, it's the pressure from peers and seniors and managers who do "a gentle request" to finish a task asap.
Also managers, Please teach new techies to hold the horses and not put there peer in pressure.

I have my HR interview for salary discussion next week with FORD motors, Chennai location. My current CTC is 11LPA and total experience is 6.5yrs. (Java fullstack developer)

Could someone pls suggest how much can I ask? I heard they are paymaster. Can I ask 100 % hike? Is it reasonable?

Hey guys,
I got my offer revised from 14.5 in Deloitte USI to 16.80 in Deloitte India .
Please suggest if it is better or not.
6YOE

Is it true that TCS rehiring their ex-employees?

Does anyone know why we have received same increment even when our ratings are different. There is only slight difference in bonus amount, rest is same for all guys. This is definitely true for 0-1 yoe ones.

Hi y’all! I’m a financial educator and my job is to help families in need of financial education! I help anyone on learning how money works here in the US & how to get rid of debt! I offer financial products that help you protect and grow your money. I’d love to help you out in reaching your personal financial needs!
I’m also always looking for people to hire!

What is the salary of Sr. consultant 2 and Sr. consultant 3 in ey?

How much FIS can offer for senior software Engineer/ senior implementation conversation analayst.?

I have 3.5 years of experience and 3 months notice period.

Current package - 9 LPA
How much can I ask for ?

Looking for advice on tips and tricks for landing PE MBA internship, coming from consulting. What were the game changers for you?

I have an offer for a company abroad. Originally they wanted me to fly out and start the day after Thanksgiving (not celebrated in their country), but because of the holidays I suggested starting in either December or January with the ability to take some holiday days in December to fly back home for Christmas. They then proposed starting out remotely “as soon as possible” in the US as a contractor and then moving abroad to start full time abroad. (Cont)

Hello,

Can someone please refer for SAP BASIS/Hana in IBM?
YOE : 6.4
Notice period : 15 days
Preferred location : Bangalore

Thanks

Anyone from Houston? I’m moving there soon and it would be great to join the community in any way!

Looking for a woman with substance behind the looks and makeup...so far, no luck.

Had a serious debate with a hipster last night. Was there anyway for America to get all of the idealistic benefits of Bernie Sanders without losing half my paycheck? Solve that and i'll feel the bern

Those who had COVID and sore throat, was your phlegm from post nasal discharge yellow or green? Mine has been very clear. I also have central heating so it could be dryness that could be causing the symptoms. Trying to figure out color of COVID phlegm. I have no fever or aches or head aches.

I recently went freelance as an EP and started my own LLC as well (to get the full benefits of being a freelancer). Some agencies and clients want to pay on a W2 versus 1099 / as an independent contractor. Should I still take the gig if W2 or stand my ground and pass?

Whats everyone buying when this ends

I’ve been on Wellbutrin for about a year and it was working…but I feel the depression coming back. I don’t want to just keep upping the dosage (went from 150 -> 200). I’m not too sure what to do and therapy is something I can’t afford right now with my recent rent increase. Any thoughts or advice?

Saw my therapist this past Friday and he gave me a useful trick to build better behavior patterns. Whenever you have work to do but would rather nap or something, tell yourself 3 negative effects of the nap and 3 positive effects of doing the work. You might still take the nap, but if you can get in the habit of thinking of it negatively, you'll take less naps when you need to be doing other things.

Doesn't matter what the activities are. Could be working out vs eating more, could be socializing IRL vs wasting time in FB (lol)

Anyone else heard of this/tried it?

How do I stop defining myself by my career? I can’t help but think of a small mistake I made at work for weeks…

I recently took a sick day and felt like my team was judging me / didn’t believe me. How do you approach taking time of when you are legitimately at a breaking point? AND if people ask

Why does getting let go feel like dying? I was so angry earlier at having gotten the news about being let go after 2 years and now it feels like I’m being crushed from the inside out.

Yesterday I officially got diagnosed with ADHD and MDD. I knew that I was feeling depressed but somehow getting diagnosed made me feel worse. I feel like I am a big failure. I had a mental breakdown yesterday night. This morning I woke up and cried for an hour at least. I had worse times in my life but this somehow feels like a trap I will never be able to escape. I’m so overwhelmed and lonely. Have no friends or family in the US. Don’t know what to do.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

When it comes to therapy do I look up a place online and make an appointment or do I need some sort of referral? Not sure if I need to see a therapist or physiatrist really.

If you've been struggling with depression and anxiety to the point you need therapy and medication, do you think it's best to share this with close workers?

Sometimes I get overwhelmed at work due to these issues. Could mentioning these problems backfire?

What are your thoughts on this?

Took my first ever sick day today on account of my very poor and worsening mental health. Just could not bring myself to put in another 14 hour day with back to back meetings and constant activity. Felt very guilty but I honestly wish I could be more honest and actually share with my manager about why I took a day off.

For those also going through this, any tips on how you manage yourself day to day? What self talk tends to help?

I can’t anymore I can’t 😭

Are any of you sleeping all the time? Like all the time? I wake up, get some coffee and then I have no idea what to do from there. I have no reason to be awake.

Had anyone stopped taking Xanax? Any tips? I have been taking 0.5 mg of Xanax every night for the past 2 weeks as my anxiety keeps me from sleeping. Unfortunately, I faced a side effect of constipation last few days, so I didn't take it last night, with hopes of weaning off of it. I didn't sleep well last night, and I'm super anxious/jittery today. A little dazed off too.

Folks, I've recently moved to the U.S. and healthcare here is a maze, even if I have health coverage through the job. I've been wanting to see a therapist and it feels like it is quite expensive to see one. I'm on a HDP PPO plan and essentially I was told I pay $250 a session till I spend ~$7000, and then insurance copay kicks in. Seriously at a loss if I'm missing something or if folks spend the same on seeing a therapist. I'm curious as to how a lot of folks are able to afford the price tag.

I manage 2 physician practices and one is extremely toxic. To the point the dr sides with staff even when I am trying to make corrective actions when patient care is in jeopardy. My leadership is aware and knows I am keeping my distance from them. Just doing the necessary work to keep them producing. How do you handle this? It’s been extremely stressful and harmful to my ptsd anxiety and depression.

Any recommendations for a female psychologist in the Alexandria,VA area?

What do you when you begin to feel yourself emotionally detaching and spiraling back to a depressive state?

Ordered a shroom grow kit and two kinds of spores. I've never taken them and always wanted to. Let's see if they do anything to rewire the brain like some people say!