About to have a difficult conversation with my parents about treating my wife with respect. Please send advice and good vibes.

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Good luck. You got this. Don't ask. Demand

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“I love you, and this is how it’s going to be.”

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Yessss stand up for your woman!!

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Finally an OP who doesn’t make their parents their spouse’s problem

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Keep us updated.

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Decide on the points you want to make ahead of time and don't negotiate on them and don't get into any "well we do it because" conversations. Anything they try and argue just acknowledge and gently redirect back to the boundary.

Eg if they go "Well she did X" or "We didn't mean that it was just Y" redirect it with "This isn't about blame or rehashing past events, going forward the expectation is that -"

Focus on definable behaviours rather than attitudes or emotions - ie instead of "you need to respect my wife" as things like "If she says something isn't allowed for the kids you need to listen to that"

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Wow, idk but just…THANK YOU

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If the roles were reversed, I’d do the same and stand up for you.

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Good luck! Think of it as a boundary you are setting, like “if you want to continue to be a part of my life, you will recognize that Wife and I are a family unit, and you will do X and Y to respect her and our relationship.”

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The conversation might go much better if you set clear boundaries and parameters.

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You got this and you're doing the right thing!

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Sending you vibes! Love that you’re standing up for your wife! ✨✨

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Ultimatum and finality. Be willing to walk away from them if they don’t comply. I’m the last to burn bridges, but you have to draw hard lines somewhere and let no one encroach those.

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