Hello fam, looking for any advice that I could receive. How important is family backing important in marriages? The person that I’m dating is a self made man with no financial support from parents. Not having a financial backing is glorified a lot by my parents which I understand that it comes from a place of concern. I wanted to have an opinion of what my peers feel- so please be kind 🙏🏻

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It think it can work provided there is a level of maturity. Most issues might arise in due to spending habits - usually self made folks have very different definitions of necessary vs discretionary spending compared to people who come from wealth. This gets more complicated in Desi families where a lot more interactions happen where spending habits might clash. E.g. eating out etc.

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I married my husband with no financial backing as well. We also support his family which I am okay with.
In my opinion family’s financial backing is not important as long as your are self sufficient. Just make sure, that the guys family do not expect him to be a backup for everyone else in the family. I didnt think it would be a problem, but when there is family without money and someone is self sufficient, family can be seeking financial support for every member, which can be a pain long term and strain relationships.
One advice is know what you dont want. Rest of the things can be solved via communication with your partner before hand.

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Self made partner any day over someone who is obligated to their family

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Thats fine though. I’d be proud of him if I were you. At least he isnt doing it for money

i think its a blessing in disguise for a girl.... if there is no parental support at his end any lady who ties up with him is likely to be leading a life without botheration from the in laws ...

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