Hinge chronicles: girls likes guy. Guy takes a few days but eventually matches with her but never initiates the conversation. Is guy waiting on girl start the chat or what? If so why? If not why match? I’m new to online dating so I’m super confused 😅

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I have a ton of matches like this, I ignore them

I only end up chatting with the guys that initiate conversation, but that hasn’t worked out for me, forever single

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I'm sorry those has happened to you

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If you want to talk to someone reach out to them. It’s 2023. If you want to wait and wonder, then you’re free to do that as well.

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You’ll never know since every guy has different reasons. He could be just swiping for fun, he could be worried you’re a scammer, he could have had to get back to work and forgotten, etc etc.

If you’re interested, say “Hi, nice pics. I like your _____.” Or whatever intrigued you in the profile.

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Thanks everybody for your input. All these responses tell me is some men have lost the art of courting and it makes me a little sad 😅

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If they don’t make a move, they aren’t actually interested. It’s hard to digest sometimes but it’s easy to click/swipe. It’s work to to call/ text/ make plans.

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By this logic, OP isn’t interested either.

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I dated a guy who told me that if on Hinge a woman “likes” him first and then he matches with them, he likes the woman to message first (his thinking is she is the one who did the initial liking so she should start the conversation). He was very much a guy who appreciated mutual initiative (ie he would reach out to plan a date one week, and I would plan the next one). The problem is that there is no way of knowing which guys think this way haha, or if they’re just not interested. My personal approach as a woman is to message first after a Hinge match if the guy hasn’t messaged within 12 hours-ish of the match. It’s 2023, any of the men I’m interested in are beyond these stupid gender stereotypes, and why would I just wait around for things to happen?

I say syop playing games and reach out if you like them

No games on my end. I always reach out if I like the guy. They just don’t engage or put a lot of effort in return. If they’re not interested but matching that’s where I get confused. Oh well

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