Honestly getting tired of doing life alone and makes me want to settle. I’ve been through a lot in my life and I’m tired of going through it alone. My therapy sessions are only once a week and apparently it’s frowned upon to run to your parents , friends or family when going through an emotional roller coaster. I’m tired of people seeing me as someone who can’t stand on my own bc of it.

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Being a burden on a partner is frowned upon too. You need to be stable and independent to be in a healthy relationship.

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Great then, we are in accord :)

When you say "settle," what does this mean?

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I guess, I really don’t know. Settling with someone who is still a decent person, but probably wouldn’t consider the as my type (although I know that can be a sticky word)

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Yikes, sounds like the two of you need marriage counseling

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Unfortunately I think the issue may be the people in your life don’t understand what it means to be a friend. Community means you may be inconvenienced. Going to people for support is human and natural. I hope you know this.

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Your post literally says that OP lol. You said it’s frowned upon to do so which is why you’re in therapy.

Relationships are hard to maintain when you are going through trauma. The US and many western countries talk up being honest but nothing will destroy life faster than being honest or asking for emotional support.

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