How are you parents of infants (under 1yo) managing both working from home and taking care of the baby with no child care/help? Feel like both spouse and I are falling behind in our jobs, and worried about either or both of us being laid off!

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I have 3 kids under 6, including an infant, and it’s been insanely difficult. Depression, anxiety, mood swings, short temper, you name it and it’s come out during quarantine.

One time I let the older two kids into the office while I was on a call with a coworker I’m friendly with and didn’t mute a single time. A week letter activity books showed up in the mail because they felt so bad for me.

Sorry, what was your question, it’s hard to stay focused. Right, my suggestion is to be open with coworkers about the challenges. I’ve explained that being stuck at home with kids all day is like being stuck in a conference room with a client. You’re always “on” and the inability to mentally and emotionally disconnect takes a real toll. Attempt time shifting so that you can be productive when the kids are asleep. Take PTO days. Spend quality time with nature. Understand that whatever uncertainties you have, your kids likely have unanswered questions of their own.

My daughter hated that her teachers had the power to mute and unmute her. The lack of control made her resent class and that led to daily meltdowns. My solution was to schedule a zoom call with my kids. My daughter had the best time bossing me and my son around to write down words and hold them up to the camera.

Sorry for the stream of consciousness. Maybe after corona I’ll come back and translate this to English.

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Hang in there D2!

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I am failing as a parent and as an employee.

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I think that is impossible. We have a 13 month old. For the first 3 months of the pandemic in my area we bounced between relying on my mom and my in laws for childcare. We have since hired a nanny who comes to our house. It’s not ideal but nothing is in these circumstances.

We’re not. Pretty much my wife is bearing the brunt of taking care of our 8 month old with my job responsibilities. We’re trying to balance but it’s tough

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