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I gave interview in Amazon and cleared all the rounds , then went on hold and still on hold due to hiring freeze in that departement. HR does respond and update me when reached out.
Interesting thing which happened here is iam cracking each every product based interviews now after my tough preparation for Amazon and getting higher packages than what Amazon would give. So whatever happens , happens for good. Cheers Amazon
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She should chsnge her name
Full stop
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Are you going to add her last name to yours? Would you take her last name? If the answer to these is no, then it’s wrong for you to expect it from her.
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Yes it's wrong for you to expect it when you never even discussed it nevermind agreed to it.
It’s not that serious. I never changed mine and we are functioning just fine. I didn’t really care to do it, it was just more of a hassle because so many things needed to be changed so I just didn’t do it. My husband preferred that I change it also and I told him that unless he does all that paperwork it’s just not happening. He obviously didn’t care that much either because here we are 15 years later and no name change!
I go by our (his) last name but I never legally changed it. I sign legal documents with my last name but on anything like rsvps, packages, etc, I use the married name 🤷♀️
Why is it so important to you? Is it a status (we are married) thing? It actually has no legal consequences even if a name change not does happen after marriage. The history of this goes back to times when (at least in the West, but I am sure something similar in some eastern cultures), when women married, legally, they became their husband’s property — yes, like chattel, land, etc., and generally speaking, what was hers (i.e. her property) also became also his. This was until laws evolved and this wasn’t always the case. So, from a western feminist perspective some women prefer not to change their name, because it does go back to times when women were “devalued” by laws, society, etc. I think — and someone can correct me — in Chinese culture, when women married, they kept their last name. That may not have been consistent across all historical periods (one has to research), but certainly in the last few hundred years (maybe more), this was the case traditionally. So women kept their surnames, after marriage. I don’t think it’s a big deal — whether she changes her name or not — hence, the question of why it is important to you? Perhaps to indicate to the world she is married to you? In many jurisdictions, changing a name has a lot of paperwork, so people avoid it. It affects everything, ID, drivers license, government documents, medical records, etc.
These days it is a headache… Aadhar, Pan, Bank accounts, certificates…just enjoy your life with your wife instead of worrying about stupid surname
It's not a big deal. Ìt is a big pain changing multiple documents. So, she changed her last name on social media. Her name remains same on all formal documents
My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years. I never changed my name. There have been zero legal issues.
Why do you want her to change her name?
If your answer is quite literally “because some other people around me did”, well that is a dumb reason to do anything.
My wife didn’t change her name for 9 months the name change for her was like loosing apart of herself I didn’t pressure or rush her she changed when she was ready and has fully embraced the name don’t feel compelled by your friends or family every relationship is different I would recommend having a conversation with your spouse to have better understanding
I mean its a pain in the rear to change it back if you ever got divorced, I will say that. I think it should be her choice but I can see how you would want her to take your last name or even hyphenate.
I don't think it's a big deal.
My wife has added my last name on her FB. That's all. Other than that everywhere she has kept her original name. And it's not a problem for me.
You can’t get into an argument for something (this big) you didn’t discuss while dating. This should be a conversation, not an argument and if she doesn’t want to change it, drop it.
It’s an identity thing.
Definitely think the bigger issue is that it wasn’t discussed thoroughly beforehand. Both perspectives are valid, but name change comes with a lot of effort and paperwork, so it’s hard even for someone who wants to change their name. Y’all could both name change or just work it out in therapy lol and find better ways to communicate to prevent something like this from happening again