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How do I get off a project without potentially getting laid off? Joined the firm 3 months ago, but my project is terrible. I can’t sleep, work 60 hours, developing anxiety and low-key depression just thinking about my next day of work. How do I tell the manager/partner I want out? The client is very important to the firm. But Im done, there’s no other option. Please help, im really going crazy and can’t be there for another month.

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OP - Sorry you’re in this situation. I would suggest talking to your counsellor - - Be professional but transparent around your reasons. No beating around the bush (“I want exposure to something else…” etc.). Issue is your mental health / well-being and the cause is the toxic project environment. This needs to be clearly stated and understood by your counsellor. - Do not go unprepared - meaning, don’t just focus on the issue but also propose a couple of options/ ideas on what can be done to fix it and how your counsellor can intervene to ensure a smooth transition. Come up with a game plan. I liked one of the previous ideas of using the staffer - but test those ideas with your counsellor. Talking to the People Partner is an option but should ideally be recommended by the counsellor so test that with him/ her too. - Don’t overthink ‘what-ifs” pls. Completely unproductive when it comes to resolving the matter and is a form of self imposed toxicity. Keep your mind clear - there’s a problem and you’re gonna fix it with the help of people around you. Hang in there! You got this OP 👊

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That's a great plan, C2! I'd have this conversation with the project lead (probably an SM) first rather than getting your counselor involved immediately. Lay out your reasons, including your well-being concerns and/or your career goals (be specific as much as you can, and include everything that your project doesn't offer). They might offer you a solution for the well-being part, but if the project is not something you are interested in, then there is not much they can do. I understand you're frustrated and don't want to stay there anymore, but make sure you offer your support for a smooth transition within the next 4-8 weeks. This timing is based on the fact that your company may not have enough resources on the bench to replace you immediately and once someone hired or come available, you offer some overlap time for knowledge transfer as well as hand holding for a while. If the lead is someone unreasonable after having a transparent conversation about facts, then get your counselor involved. Retaliation is real, so do your best not to burn bridges! Good luck!

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. Have been in the same boat and understand that feeling. I reached out to my staffer and told them that I needed to be rolled off of the project and wanted to try something else due to mental health. They were super understanding and rolled me off the same week and advised me on how to speak with the project team. This was my method but hope you can find one that works for you. Sending you strength and encouragement!

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Are you expected to work on different projects? You can say that you need exposure to different projects and that it’s time to move on. That said, if you don’t work through some issues here, there is a risk that you will carry the same situation to a new projects

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Very mature reply! Loved it!

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Do you have a coach/ mentor at the firm? Often these individuals may be able to act as an intermediary

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i don't think the coach is gonna tell you that everybody works a lot! Try that support and see what they suggest you

Talk to your people lead

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You need a new PL …. But if this is a key client…. they will pick the client over you. I would start looking outside the firm/new projects to role on to and mention that the new project will help with growth. These firm pick money over people, so please do what’s best foe yourself there will always be another job!

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Although easier said than done, try not taking things seriously!

This is a terrible response lol

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Depends on how much longer the project is. If there is no other project or people it’s a slim chance.

Nothing wrong with asking for support from other team members and delegate some of your tasks. The project is big and important so tasks can surely be delegated across the team more evenly.

What is it about this project? Do you think the next project will be different? Or is it the stress of the learning curve and new job?

Best way is to start with asking for more resources on the team. Say the level of effort is more than we expected. If that is turned down, raise risk of not meeting time line in one-on-one with your manager and potentially his boss and that the team has been working long hours. Also add “we are leaving money on table by not charging more fees.”

I've been on a project like this. It was a stressful client but they were paying nicely. Management didn't want anyone to leave. The stress was causing people to either lose weight, gain weight, or cry or drink excessively. I tried to get my manager and other partners to replace me on the project with the premise that they were more experienced. Client wasn't having it. They want me. I ended up lining up another project and then slowly convinced the employees I worked with on the client team that they didn't need me anymore. The following Thursday the partner calls me outside to chat and tells me that he's thankful for the work I did and that when I leave today, I don't have to return next week. :-D

60 hrs is nothing

Tbh C2’s answer is all you need here and now. That being said you should reconsider your choice of career/choice of firm. You simple need to be able to cope with 60h work week on any given project, especially if it’s a T1 client. If this affects your mental health I’d recommend consider corporate or start/scale up with a progressive WLB. Consulting is NOT the holy grail and definitely not worth compromising your mental health.

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