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Relationships/Marriages - been there done that. My kids are grown, last one is in college. I enjoy doing what I want when I want (or nothing at all) and not having to consider anyone else’s schedule or what they want to do or watch or deal with moods or insecurities. I connect with friends or my kids when I want to get out and do things. I have dogs and am happy with my life the way it is now. 🧘♀️
I was planning to stay single unless I met a man with my same level of drive and empathy and willingness to contribute 100% in a relationship and around the house. Met my husband two years ago and he was too amazing to say no to. 🥺
hypergamy
Not single but related- we chose not to have kids
For ever I had anxiety about parenthood, I love kids I’m just not excited at the prospect of my own
Related to your post, I think people revel in owning their destiny. Forever we assumed we needed to do things a certain way.
It isn’t true.
I live exactly how I wish and I’m better for it
If the single life suits you, keep at it! I know many people who were made less because of a relationship. Jesus, if I were with my college girlfriend, I’d have killed myself by now
What are „cultural debts”?
It’s easier being single. I’d change that for someone worthy though
And yet no one has been worthy
I just don't have the right kind of attitude for a committed relationship: I'm selfish, blunt to the point of being rude, and suffer from occasional bouts of immaturity. I would never ask or expect anyone to put up with that. Honestly it's more of a public service than it is about whether or not I'm lonely (which I'm not - I've got my cat and that's good enough for me).
Till a man applies pressure. I want the clouds in the sky to say “ dinner at 8 babe” I want the boats in the ocean to spell out “I love u “
What the hell is this ? I worked at Wendy's drive through and don't have many years of education. Please use simple sentences.
Single people, people married without kids are living in the present. They aren't thinking about who will take care of them when they're old.
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An important qualifier is that family and community matter to you, not to all of us. I personally don't like many people and especially dislike my family. Given my dislike of children, having children would be cruel to all involved. I've been married for over thirty years; My husband and I are very happy. In old age, we'll roll the dice with in home care providers. I figure we have the same odds of success assuming our offspring would care for us.
Im doing IVF right now to have kids on my own. I work too much to meet people outside my direct group often enough, had horrible experiences and things happen to me on app dates and live in a city where commitment isn't the vibe anyway so I decided to stop struggling against the market and continue to build the life I wanted.
No, children deserve to be safe from people like you. There is no basis in anything that I said that makes it rational to believe that I view that I children as accessories or am having children for more selfish reasons than that of anyone else who has children. At a very young age, I adopted three of my kid brothers and raised them to adulthood. I worked full-time, I went to college full-time and I took care of them full-time. You will never make the sacrifices for another human being that I have made, so trying to frame me as a selfish person is just not gonna work with me. It's laughable.
Having children on my own was primarily driven out of a desire to ensure they're safe and well. I did not want to do to my kids what I have seen so many mothers due to their children just for the sake of having a partner. That is selfish and pathetic and I can't force men to be better, emotionally intelligent people to prevent that otherwise.
When I have children in a few years, I will easily be able to transition into another role that allows me to spend a ton of time with them and make more money than I do now. I won't have any issues giving them adequate attention, I've spent my entire life learning about child psychology and development and I will have plenty of resources to take care of them for the rest of their lives. I also have a massive community of people who are super excited to help me raise my children. The reason that children from two parent households do better is because of attunement and resources. My children will want for nothing because I've worked my entire life to make sure I could provide that for them.
And I know that you're never going to be honest with yourself about why you're cutting up stats and hyperbolicly framing this as harmful. But just so you know, you can talk until you're blue in the face, the days of shaming women to try and control us are over. We are going to do what we know is best based on our lived experiences, that of our mothers and all the other women around us and based on knowledge we gather that recognizes the nuances in information and statistics. 👍🏽
The suicide pod business is gonna be booming in the next decade.
Yeah I heard they're going to come in different colors and shapes and you can be buried in the pod itself.
Never wanted to be single for life. I wanted the kids, spouse, white picket fence. Been on numerous apps and events to try to meet people. Just never got anywhere.
At this point in my life, if I do get married, I’ll have to foster / adopt kids. In the meantime, I’ll volunteer at local events.
You and I both know who and what the problem is too, im sure of it...
I do find this an intrested post an will read all others words, I am 50, was married pretty happily for 25 yrs rasied 2 great now adults kids w, my ex husband, we had a a really good life togerther ur blue collar family, house, 5 acres horses, pets not alot of extra $ but was a really good up bringing for hte kids, fwd grew apart an he left me w a house i could not pay for, so the bank got it back, 11/12 yrs ago it took a long time to get enough $ an 2 bad relationship , ok I manged to buy my own house, I have sm amount or land but have my horse an cats w/ me I have remained completely single for little over 3 yrs, it get hard at times, ie when heating bills in winter get high or summer when keeping up w my yard or cleanin my gutters alone I dont have extra funds to pay a person to do it an at times I think gosh it be nice to have a man around to help w things, or 1 to watch Sun fb w/ or to hold me or build me up when I feel lifes getting to much, an then I go to work an here all diff ages women an few men asi listen to how unhappy they are in there marriage or being tied to someone an I can see in some how there a great person, however how much when there fighting w the other half affects them, an my heart gose out to them 100%, at the end of the day I reminds me yes i face struggles at times, but I still @ this point belive it far out weighs the troubles of anonter..... Peace is within when you learn yourself ....... Even in salience when you may be lonely.....
It’s not by choice…
"what is the motivation behind that decision"
Don't ask questions you don't REALLY want the answers to.
I'm 24 and have been on-the-fence for "awhile." In any case, as a straight dude, I'll consider adoption but having my own kids while sexual health and reproductive care/safety net has been wholly erased from this country is not looking too good for me. Like whom would've thought that erasing reproductive care benefits would lead to a declining birth rate? I'm GenZ and we've been fvcking less, which is reasonably justified. Personally, I don't want to have a situation in which my wife doesn't survive an absolutely survivable medical event because the docs won't go through with an abortion because they're scared that they will be thrown in jail due to the removal of Roe and rhetoric and litigation that are making women literal breeding grounds. ("No, you don't understand. You WILL carry my child!") Take that for what you will.
I don’t understand why people don’t just get married for the tax breaks in the US.
I live in a country where the tax is higher if you’re married, but societal pressure to be “normal” makes people get married.
I’d marry a friend if I lived in the US just to get the tax break.
What you’d save in taxes, you’d spend in marriage related expenses that you wouldn’t necessarily have as a single person. There’s also debt issues that in most cases would be automatically assumed by a spouse and there’s no way to escape them even with a prenup. The courts would make either spouse pay due to public charge laws. Medical and student loan debt, as an example. And let’s not even get to the divorce part if that were to happen, the “single” tax would seem like a dream by comparison. 😂
Why is that any of your business
I guess we are more aware about what we want and what we need, so unless I meet someone who make me feel loved, respected and cared about, I aint saying “I do”.
Don't need or want another person inside my head. I just been divorced and I am loving every moment of the single life. Even, if I ever do find somebody "worthy", I still wouldn't want to risk the peace of mind that I have right now
Sour grapes.
Sacrifice humanity for some job that will outsource you at the drop of a hat.