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I KNEW IT !!! 😛😄 (to lighten the situation if they’re worried about this conversation).
Also, then ask them to explain their situation, why they’re coming out now, and what support they need from me?
And try and understand their thoughts and help them the best I can with whatever they want from here on.
Personally, I’d be super okay with it as long as they don’t want me to accept what’s not acceptable to me. Their sexual orientation changing is okay with me. Asking me to stay in this marriage while they keep exploring their own life is not okay with me. So I’d wish them luck for life, be their friend forever & would ask for a friendly separation that doesn’t leave both of us crying. 🥂
Keep an open mind. People have the ability to change and grow, as well as feel empowered by your relationship to acknowledge all sides of themselves.
I’ve been with my partner (now husband) for almost 10 years, and before we met, I didn’t know exactly where my sexuality fell, didn’t feel comfortable sharing that, and it was just easier to hide away. When you fall in love with your (straight) person, it might not feel relevant, or at worse, feels hurtful to them, so you don’t bring it up. But it’s still part of your identity. Maybe you just haven’t figured it out yet, and in a straight relationship, how would you?
In the past 5+ years there’s been so much more media, terminology and social groups that have emerged to make people who might not be 100% straight feel seen and supported. And so it’s something I’ve unpacked in therapy, and talked extensively about with my significant other. At the end of the day, if you’re monogamous, it shouldn’t make a difference. It’s just kind of like oh, I like green apples and red apples, but I like you, honeycrisp, best of all. How does it feel out of an even bigger dating pool that your partner picked you over everyone else?
If there are feelings of insecurity or infidelity, talk to a professional about it. There are so many resources out there today and shameful dialogue like this thread just pushes people deeper into the closet.
I sense there could be an affair if this is not a genuine case.
Ask to seperate with no financial burden on yourself. Make it quick.
I'd feel lied to, betrayed, and foolish. It's like telling me that, listen, I have been using you, and your life means nothing to me, so I used it to experiment.
While I was thinking of forever, you were playing games with my life and my emotions.
I need to know the truth about who I marry, then choose the marriage despite the truth. Withholding this truth and having me commit my life to a lie is inexcusable and unforgivable in my perspective.
Coming out is no different from the other truths about you that needs to be shared before marriage.
As a woman I would have end that marriage. I would not pity someone who wasted my time and used me as an experiment knowing the whole time they are gay.
I would demand proof and evidence
I’d try to be as supportive as possible but we’re definitely getting a divorce and an annulment.
I'd feel a little sad that he felt he couldn't tell me before, but I'd be happy that he felt he finally could. IHowever, if he wants to explore his sexuality it would be a deal breaker. Selfishly, I don't have to share you with anyone else. You're still the same person to me.
Hanlon’s frisbee? It could actually be nicer
I think at first I would be a little shocked and probably not know what to say. But ultimately I would try to be as supportive as I could be and then figure out how we would move forward. Its definitely not something that would be fun to go through.
I wish I could tell my wife that I am Bi , I feel so suppressed sexually 🥲
I dunno… Ellen?
Wife is low-key Bi but doesn’t linger/act on it. We’re very religious yet also lean liberal, so it’s just kind of a non-issue. I don’t get butt-hurt by it because I understand the attraction to women 🤣
If they told me well into the marriage I’d be accepting but worrisome.
I guess I’d be worried if they were in the process of converting fully to gay and if they’d still want to be with me.
I’ve just never seen that sort of thing work out if they are coming out well into a relationship.
True about the headlines, but I’ve met enough people.
I think it’s only a problem if they are not attracted to you or need space to explore that and you’re uncomfy with that.
Being gatekept by betas is not so bad. Who said that University of Missouri?