I accidentally heard my co worker who trains me talking shit about me with my boss during our afternoon team meeting, (i lost my internet connection and when i joined again maybe he didn't saw me back in the call and I heard him bitching about me)My boss is just telling him to give some slack and I will get there. The co worker has been in this position for 3 yrs and I just joined last Feb. how do you handle this situation?

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your boss had your back. thats a great sign. the person talking behind your back is the one looking bad, not you.

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i wouldnt say anything now, but you always have it in your back pocket now...if you know what i mean

Slash their tires

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Let this one go. Watch the bitcher. Your are new so it is understandable that you are not as proficient as the one who's been there three years. Stroke his ego a bit and ask for advice or an answer to a question. You will get better and someday soon you will be the equal or better of anyone else on your team. If he continues undercutting you, you will have to bring it to the manager's attention, but be patient for the time being.

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I had a very similar situation happen to me, the person training me was complaining about how inept new hires are right in front of me. I just told my manager that my learning style did not align with how they were training me and asked if someone else could help train me. I would try not to throw anyone under the bus, especially because in your situation your manager already knows what your trainer said. And keep your head up! You’ll get the hang of things!

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