I am so tired of getting mixed up with the other black female associate at my firm. Sigh.

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I feel this (me and the other South Asian female associate)

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Well, I’m the only one in my office, so I don’t have that problem. 🫠

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lol you got me beat there

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a judge used to do that all the time despite us looking absolutely nothing alike lol. Yet everyone can tell Josh and Ian apart

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This used to happen to me and a colleague all the time. We literally look nothing alike, except we are both black women and worked in the same group. I think she was the only black woman there for so long that when people saw a black woman, they just assumed it was her 🤦🏽‍♀️.

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I respond in person and over email, “I think you’re looking for the other Black woman,” or “Sorry, wrong Black woman!” And then I go about my day. Gets em every time 🙃

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The level of ignorance in our profession is astounding at times, and disheartening at others. I'm sorry you're dealing with that, OP. But we're laying the foundation for change as we speak.

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this was a really nice reply to read. Thank you.

I’m not going to lie - the last 6 months at my old job I just started doing it back to them. 🤷🏿‍♀️

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You should walk around with panda ears on. That should fix it real quick lol

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