I feel like I’m stuck in a frustrating pattern and I’m starting to get cynical about dating. We meet for a first date that goes GREAT, then second, third, sometimes even a fourth & 5th date… and then it just fizzles out. They stop suggesting future dates, and while I’m not completely against proposing myself, if the last text was from me thanking them for the date, I sense they have no interest if they don't reply/suggest a next date. What's so wrong with me🥲 Should I give up and just hook up

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I hear you and I understand completely. I try to take it as a sign that they are not the one for me. Someone who is interested and genuinely likes you would make the effort to spend time with you and show it. Don’t give up.

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I have had similar pattern. But I'm on the other side being a male. It gets frustrating

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If no one wants me then amma just start being a whore. F it.

Amma give it one more year.

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Yes

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Dating is worse than applying for jobs.

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OP are you a (F)?

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Have you tried suggesting dates or asking questions to see if they’re interested in something serious? I know ladies want a man to lead but guys these days need some push

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Not a total ghosting since they haven't blocked me on whatsapp or deleted the match, I know if I asked them a question they would reply, but they stop initiating dates & convos as they used to. Probably would get the it's not me it's you answer if I asked them to date again. They would say yes to sex though

OP, How far do these relationships progress? Do you get intimate date 3 or beyond?

A lot of us have experienced this, you are not alone!

Dating not how it use to be.

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So...who is single and ready to mingle? ✍️

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Hi. Can I bounce some ideas for a spot off one of ya?

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

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