I had no choice but to be in a middle seat on Delta “comfort”. A man was sitting to my left and he kept pushing into me or… leaning into my left arm. Like, really hard for as long as he could keep it up. Hopefully I am explaining this clearly. I couldn’t go anywhere or move because there was someone to my right. The only way to avoid this would have been to sit forward. So, I just sat there. But my arm! Eventually he fell asleep so the pushing / pressure went away. It was a 1 hour flight. WWYD?

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I’m sorry you felt uncomfortable.
Can understand the apprehension in saying something to them but it might have been the best avenue to take.
If you couldn’t, flight attendant would have been next contact.

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Honestly, as a woman, I suggest getting really good at verbalizing your boundaries. Otherwise, folks will treat you how they feel like it. Generally speaking, most people like to avoid conflict so they're likely to back off.

Like, bro, your in my space. You mind moving your arm? I would even throw out that he's making you uncomfortable, if that isn't too much for you.

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I would lean back into him or stretch my arms out to fill my space to make it obvious that I know what he is doing and am not allowing it. You just have to match their energy and let them know you won’t be bullied, and they will get back in their seat.

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Ya I think I might "accidently" knock a full glass of cranberry juice into their lap 😁

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What would I do....firmly vocally address the situation. Excuse me sir, you are leaning on me and it's making me uncomfortable.

Let him pick a fight.

Let him hang himself.

Sooner than later a flight attendant will become involved. And to be blunt you do have the sympathy advantage as a middle seat female vs a male.

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You found the jerk on the plane - at least it was just a 1 hour flight. You should have asked him to move over or stop pushing - calling him out on his boorish behaviour may have done the trick, but I know that may have been uncomfortable. Next time poke him back with a sharp elbow or two!

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I don’t know about that. Men can be violent with women.

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Was he fat? big? Maybe he was too big for his seat?

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middle seat occupant gets both arm rests

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a “society”

I felt uncomfortable asking him to stop. It seemed intimidating. I was grateful when he went to sleep. What could I have done? Tell the flight attendant?

The funny thing is that after the plane landed, he got up and was super helpful to other people …like he started handing them their bags from the overhead bin. But he wouldn’t let me stand up to get my own bag or hand me my bag or anything.

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I only said that so she could reply!

Some people are not aware of personal space or when their body parts are invading others space. I have had someone fall asleep and head fall on me. I used my finger and pushed them off me.

I would have said, excuse me. Your arm is jabbing into my side. Is there a way you can reposition?

Could have also did your own arm jabbing back at him. 😂

I disagree. I think he was absolutely considering it. It was in his body language.

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