Just want some dating advice. I been seeing this guy and we both in for the long haul. He has this best friend, and basically I hate her. I’m a guy btw. She is like this dramatic annoying type who bosses around. I’m a very quiet guy and I don’t like drama. My SO really wants me to be friend with her but I genuinely hate her. The moment she steps in the room I’m like “argh you again”. We had an argument because I don’t wanna hang with her. I don’t know what to do. Advices would be super appreciat

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Studies say that you only need three things in common to be friends with someone regardless of age, political, or religious differences. Try to find those three things and go from there.

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I get why a person wants his/her/their friends to be their PARTNER’S friends. But it has to happen organically. That can’t be forced. Many times, people don’t click and the SO should accept that.

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It is difficult to be friends with an SO’s friend if they just don’t mesh with you but you don’t HAVE to be friends with her. You can just be cordial. I know this might cause issues between you and your SO but it’s okay to have separate friends. If, however, you adamantly want to try and be friend with this girl then I would do like Associate 1 says and try to find some commonality. I will just warn about bringing up certain hot button things. Start with mundane things like hobbies.

Try to get to know her (I am also someone who has a hard time with loud dramatic people haha, so I understand) and if some reason you still don’t mesh well then have that talk with your SO. I am sure he will understand. I wish you the best!

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Watch “You” on Netflix. You’re welcome.

Side note: my ex-gf’s friends convinced my ex gf to break up with me because they were jealous. Women are vicious man.

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Being cordial or polite is different than being friends with someone. I don’t believe that you need to be friends with your SO’s friends - but you do need to be polite. My husband and I are each polite to our various friend groups, but typically I hang out separately with my friends, and he hangs out separately with his friends, and it’s okay if he doesn’t love all of my friends and vice versa.

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It sounds like you’re starting every interaction with her at a 10 based on your reaction when she walks into a room. If that’s the case, it’s going to be very hard to establish a relationship bc every little thing she does that seems annoying will be magnified. Try to actively give her a chance at each new interaction by trying to go into it without preconceived notions as to how much you hate her.

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