I know somebody who has extensive difficulties making any friends because he lacks empathy, emotional depth, maturity, and has social challenges (possibly a form of autism). The parents offered to pay me money to spend time with him and to be his friend to raise his confidence. Is it inappropriate to be his friend for money?


Its not a true friendship and he won’t socially develop properly this way. I think its not a good idea to pretend to be his friend for money.

What do you guys think?

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Rather than them pay you to be a friend. How about a social coach. Go out with him, help him read the room and provide feedback. You can practice before and after to improve his social interactions since you're a positive influence on him.

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It is wrong to do something with someone and they have no idea. That's evil . You have no consideration of how much harm you can do to their healthy mentally physically mentally emotionally spiritually. You are also racking of debt , karmic , and generational debt to your grandkids . That's is the dumbest thing you could ever do. The Lord sees everything you do . He is inside you . How do you think you can breath. He is the breath.

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I don’t think I will do it. I feel bad for him. It is an unfortunate situation

I wouldn't do it. Mainly because if the person finds out, it's going to crush them, and what little confidence they did have would vanish.

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I wouldn’t do it. Too much emotionally drauma potential from either him or his parents.

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Leave this to a professional.

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That is Not friendship. His parents may have good intentions in paying you to socialize with him but that is not the same as friendship. To lead him to believe that would be tragic. It is deceitful and would lead to a traumatic ending for him... very cruel and unfair! However, to tell him you are going to "socialize" with him, for some time is not wrong.

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I think that I will probably just help him however I can. The issue is cost of living in Los Angeles is very high and it limits my time availability. Thats where the conflict comes from. I don’t think I will accept payment for helping him. It just feels wrong

I don't think anyone should ever pretend to be something there not I like the social coach Idea you would basically be tutoring him and teaching him how to tell if someone genuinely cares or is just trying to use him which are vital skills to have in today's society. Who knows maybe you'll make an irreplaceable friend out of him while your at it

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I agree that noone should pretend to be something that they are not. Its strange to get an offer like this. I think they are going for positive influence. Its very taxing to be around him and time consuming. Sometimes he messages me at 11:30pm at night and I got to get up to go to work at 7am. I am asleep and he keeps messaging me….

You are a therapist?

Physical therapist. I have some education regarding these kind of behavioral issues but my primary focus is rehab

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