I look really young for my age. I'm a midlevel associate but I look like I could be in high school. I notice that I'm treated differently than my colleagues at times. There isn't anything explicit or negative, but it feels like others subconsciously think that I'm really young and that I'm sometimes not taken as seriously. Does anyone else experience this?

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Yep. All the time. I am a black women and often wear my hair in braids which makes me look 15-16.

Most people assume I’m young until they talk to me and see the quality of my work. I just kinda think of it as a compliment and let me work speak for me.

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