I made myself very sick drinking because I was depressed over Valentine’s Day. I know I’m going to do the same thing tomorrow. I hate knowing that I’m making myself feel worse and worse. But feel like I’m punishing myself for my own overwhelming safe hatred for failing at life.
Doubt anyone here is as bad as me with it, but if there is, don’t do what I’m doing.

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I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that. Please talk to someone. Alcohol isn’t worth it. Make changes to your life so that there is something to look forward to that isn’t drinking.

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I know alcohol is no good. I’m not really a big drinker. Majority of time I don’t touch it, it’s always made me feel sick. Which I guess makes it worse since I still drink it when I want to feel like that. Doing better now, but was quite painful and just all around feeling bad for a while.

Plenty of things to be grateful for bro. You got a job, a software engineer of all things! And you're alive! You know the probability of life? It makes winning the lottery seem like a job. Glass always half full bro, it's just about perspective.

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Consider trying some AA meetings in your area. Even if you don’t consider yourself an alcoholic, the supportive community helps. Try at least 5 different meetings as they each have their own vibe. Best to you!

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Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through that. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, everyone struggles at times, and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed at life. You deserve kindness, especially from yourself. Maybe try reaching out to a friend, family member, or someone you trust and talk about how you’re feeling. You don’t have to take it alone. Take things one step at a time and try to do something small that’s good for you today.

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