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Don’t think he married you because of money. I make 3x my wife and what is mine is hers. Doesn’t matter how little or how much she makes
@Fellow1 please continue to cite outdated and incorrect stats https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/millennials-divorce-baby-boomers/571282/
I’m female and make at least 3.5 times what my husband makes. If you’re in a real partnership, it shouldn’t matter how much or little one contributes, provided that’s what you both have agreed to. If you like/love your job, then be thankful for that, ditto for the hubby’s position.
My hubby and I sat down and talked about our investment and savings priorities and have split bills accordingly to what each of us can pay to stay within our earnings. We also talk about big projects and how we finance them (around the house, etc). I agree with C1, what’s mine is his. We also have different life insurance policies as he’d need more protection if something happens to me vs. my financial security not as dependent on what he brings to the table.
If this is an issue with just yourself, tell your hubby about it, sit down and talk through it! If your hubby is making it an issue, then you both have to work through it, just know that nobody should put you down bc you make less money than them... I don’t know your situation (and haven’t read the 80+ comments on here to see if you posted additional insights), but try finding self-worth in your relationship by getting past the pay inequality in your relationship and focus on what matters for you both (that’s hopefully not about who makes more money).
Use the money you make to plan vacations for you and the family, or save it for your kids college fund or invest in real estate. You will certainly like you are contributing
OP I hope you are encouraged by this thread to feel like you’re contributing enough! I’m a man. My wife makes twice as much as me, but she works only 10 hrs a week. She wants to be home in the day with our daughter. Perhaps she’ll work more when our girl goes to kindergarten. But we know now she could keep contributing the same amount of money and we’ll be fine! Having an education, a skill and the ability to earn is what we’re grateful for.
I meant twice more per hour. When she was working full time, she took home twice as much as me.
Doesn’t matter money wise.. do you contribute towards your family’s joy, happiness, time, love, chores etc.?
That’s what matters.
I make around 4x as much as my SO, might go to 10x at some point. As long as both can contribute and you can afford the lifestyle you desire, it doesn't matter. As a consultant I would guess you're already way above an average salary anyway!
Not who you asked, same $ situation.
I contribute what I can to “our” accounts, as does she, and we both keep separate accounts for ourselves.
Her shopping, her biggest non critical expense, can dip into “our” account with the understanding that she will be using “our” money. This money is for bills, saving, vacations, whatever we would do. It’s worked out fairly well so far. If she wants to hit “our” money she talks to me if it’s significant. It’s great because she’s not “asking” me for money she is talking about using “our” money.
With that said I almost always out of pocket for stuff we do, like vacations, or big purchases.
My husband makes between 7 and 10x what I make and probably always will.
I don’t worry about it because 1) I work to keep sharp and have something interesting and challenging to do and 2) Its important to me to know I can support a decent life for our kids if anything happens with him.
If he’s making you feel less than in your relationship then you need to address that. If it’s just in your head then change the way you think about work
What does your husband do that he makes so much more?
My husband makes 3x what I do, but when we were first married we had $2K in our joint checking account and I made only slightly more than him. I’ve always thought that if we hadn’t entered the marriage on such equal footing I might feel self conscious about the gap in our incomes. I don’t have a solution for you OP, but I think I know how you feel. In my case I feel we’ve both made sacrifices for one another’s advancements, and the ones I’ve made for his have definitely paid off, I guess?
Go make a baby and try to see achievement beyond money.
OP, my fiancé makes double of me and we both work for Deloitte and I know Deloitte under pays me (that’s a story for another day). It would irritate me a bit from time to time because he doesn’t have to worry financially as much as me, but our assets are soon becoming one. His job requires different skills than mine and in our relationship, we are both equals and bring different things to the table despite our salary difference. We are equals and team players no matter how much each of us makes. We balance each other perfectly and there are so many things I can do that he can’t do and vice versa. I know I can be independent without him, but I look at our income as combined and am so proud of him. I have my own salary goals and they’re going to look different from his and that’s ok. He’s never made me feel bad for what I earn other and we both love and support one another. Now if your spouse is making you feel badly about your salary, that’s another story. If these are just your personal feelings, we’ll be proud of your spouse and focus on your own goals and aspirations and what you’d like to see. Also, this is slightly off topic, but therapy can be really helpful to talk this through if it starts to eat away at you. I found it really helps me when I feel frustrated, especially at my fiancé.
Also, apologies for the typos and poor grammar. I was in a car typing this. Oops.
what an absurd post
You’re being absurd MKC1
Are you a software engineer too? Differing skill sets can contribute to the difference in salary.
Well that feels unnecessary
I have made more than my husband for the past 5 years or so, including a time when he was laid off for 9 months. Later this year, we are expecting him to get promoted and he will be making more than me, with potential for a lot more. There are things in our relationship or with our family where one of us does more than the other. But it really doesn’t matter at the end of the day. We are a team and we both contribute different stuff to make our lives great.
First world problem sheesh people
Why does this matter? When I was just getting started after my masters when I made less than my husband, which hurt my pride more than anything else, but now I make 3X what he does. And he too is a dev... and I am sure he will catch up someday too... I wouldn’t take it too much to heart
We can’t put a monetary value on love.
What’s his is yours and what’s yours is his. He knew what financial situation he was getting into when he proposed. Your husband is 100% ok with what you’re contributing. Don’t stress! You 2 are a team
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Don't ever feel you don't contribute to a relationship. You can't compare apples to oranges. Consider yourself lucky if your husband does not see it as an issue. Mine doesn't then I love him all the more for it.
I grew up in a generation where the man was the breadwinner and the wife ran the house and raised the family. My parents own businesses and worked beautifully side-by-side because they had a mutual trust, love, and respect for each other.
I read a post that mentions that successful people measure success with how much difference they made in other people's lives. Remember that what you do counts!
My advice to you is to think of George Bailey. He barely had two nickels to rub together but in the eyes of others, he was a king! Of course, he had Clarence to help him work through that, but you have tons of support from the multitude of people responding to your post.