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I mentioned during the interview process that I had a young daughter and the conversation immediately went to “you saw this position requires 25% travel, right?” I should’ve never said anything. 😔

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UED1 that boils my blood. The condescending "awww you miss him" ? "I don't know how you do it as a single mom". Meanwhile, I'm a pro at this point (my kids use Google docs and link to my Google calendar) on being a working mom, AND have time to help neighbor mom's who HAVE HUSBANDS (rides home from track/football practice, etc). So please, PSA. If you find out a woman is a working mom, keep your opinion/judgements/comments to yourself. Do not even discuss the topic unless she invites you too. Let's start there. Mind your manners, and mind your business.

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Ugh I hate that. I have an infant have to keep repeating that I am good to travel. And when I do travel everyone is like “I bet you miss him and it is hard for you"

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I’m already in a position where I travel a lot. Like yes it’s not ideal but it’s a part of my job if I was concerned about it I would’ve mentioned that. Why is it assumed that a dad with a young child would have no problem traveling? Now that I think about it a Dad would probably never even make this "mistake” and mention their kid at all

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That’s the worst feeling! I’ve been to interviews that were essentially just a formality, only to mention I have a toddler and watch the faces drop. I’m grateful for that now - if you were discounted for daring to be a parent, imagine what the culture would be like! The right role will come along, where having a child is just seen as another part of your life instead of a hindrance to your work.

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I’m feeling litigious. Let’s sue them

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TBH, if I said I value flexibility and they didn't end up hiring me, they DON'T value it so did you really want the job? I am very upfront about this and it has cost me many jobs but it's basically one of my top priorities and I won't settle.

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Needless to say they moved forward with another candidate. I am so mad at myself. We were in talks about salary and I mentioned that while comp. is important I am really evaluating the full package and things like flexibility are of high value to me having a young daughter. It was like the convo came to a screeching halt. BTW this convo was with a woman too

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You need what you need and that job wasn’t going to give it to you. Don’t settle!

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How are women supposed to rise into leadership positions if we can’t get jobs because we’re mothers? I’m a single mother and realistically can’t travel that often bc I just don’t have the support (or the extra money to pay for care). But that means I can’t move up into leadership, which seems completely fucked up to me. And this a problem even for married mothers. I wish this were part of the 3% conversation

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Assholes. Shame on them. Sorry you were subjected to that.

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This kind of behavior concerns me as we look to start trying for our first. Worried that talking about something that is such a huge piece of one’s life and a blessing could also cause growth hinderance in another area of my life. Lord help us

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I've noticed that my travel has been minimal to none the last couple of years. I know work is just trying to be cognizant of the fact that I am a single mom, but like give me day trips or something. I actually enjoy the travel.

I’m so sorry to hear!!! It shouldn’t be this way. Middle finger to them.

Agreed @SC 1

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